What are some neurotypical things that don't make sense?

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Must confess I didn't get where I am today without telling the odd porky.

See there you go

I kind of have mixed opinions on lying. I'm very used to others lying to me as a kid & teen & people in society lying in general. But on the other hand I'm also used to others like my mom giving me lots of honest negative criticism & critiquing me hoping I'd improve various behaviors but the behaviors were not problematic or were not things I had much control over. Plus some of the comments made me feel very misunderstood, unwanted, & unloved, & triggered me into having very bad meltdowns & verbal fights trying to explain myself & verbal lashing out in an attempt to give the emotional hurt back. I've also been in various situations where me being honest has caused arguments & others having hurt feelings or gotten me in other trouble that could of been avoided if I had lied a little. I learned to be a good liar sometimes. I'm very used to others not understanding my special needs related to autism & other disabilities & me telling a good lie can make things go a lot easier for me with support. For example while I was on SSI Social Security Administration said I was supposed to be giving my parents a certain amount to cover food, housing, & utilities but I had to spend half my full SSI check on my private health insurance & out of pocket medical costs because no doctors in my area would accept Louisiana Medicaid. I was also paying for the home cable & internet bill which my parents would of had regardless of if I was paying or not & since I knew more about internet & my parents knew I looked at adult stuff they wanted the internet to be under my name but SSA didn't consider that expense to be a utility. I was also paying for my cellphone service on top of that which SSA would consider a utility expense but I was still supposed to be covering a lot more. When I was not working I could not afford to give my parents money to cover my share of those expenses. When I had reviews with the SSA while on SSI they asked if I was giving my parents a certain amount to cover my food, housing, & utilities & I said Yes because answering No would have caused my benefits to be cut. Programs & services that are supposed to help majorly disabled people can sometimes be very restrictive & anal about following their exact requirements & I fall through the cracks with lots of things because I do not have the right diagnoses or I'm not considered severely disabled enough by one specific disability ignoring the combo of all my other disabilities together. Telling the right lies can make the difference between receiving some help or no help at all. I'm also used to others assuming I'm lying when I'm telling the truth which has lead to punishments & other trouble but me telling the right lie to explain things can be easier for others to believe & understand than the truth.

This said I don't believe in lying to screw others over or take advantage of others & I also do not believe in lying to betray romantic partners. However my girlfriend struggles with depression & can be a bit emotionally unstable at times. I hate upsetting her & sometimes if I'm upset by something like changing plans or her making rush decisions concerning me without getting my input first, it's better for me to say I'm fine & that I'm not upset because I know I'll feel better in a while & it's not worth hurting her feelings & both of us feeling like cr@p all day. Sometimes it's better for me to keep certain things to myself.

I always liked Trollope, whilst having no use for Dickens. Was he a kindred spirit, do you think?

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Hard to know. The Victorians often seem a bit Spectrummy to me, with their refreshing tendency to overexplain and their slow, steady lifestyle. I often see bits like that one I quoted and wonder.

What I've learned about NT folk is that when they tell you something and ask you not to tell anyone, they actually expect you to spread it about

This rule both confuses and amuses me in equal measure

It's worth noting here that when we read about "victorians" it's mostly about the upper class, who live a most artificial life style, concerned about being properly dressed, coming from a good family, and "knowing one's place", none of which interests me in the least!

Well there would likely be a downside. Class distinction was probably even worse then than it is now. And rigid rules are all very well for giving predictable expectations, but if the rules suck, they're not going to be much fun.

Politics.

Calling people that they don't know a word that rhymes with bombarded, especially if the person seems different in some way.

Companies are run primarily for the benefit of managers, and the more managers the better. This is why "flat" management structures never catch on, though they have repeatedly been demonstrated to be more efficient, leading to more "shareholder value".

Managers, by their nature are consensus freaks; the more people who agree to something, the safer they feel; god forbid that they should ever be forced to make a solo management decision! So what are these managers to do with their time? There are many ploys, like insisting that a report has to be handed in by Monday morning, thought they are not needed till Friday, ensuring that each product is "rubbish on time".

Others are to query any overspend, getting signatures from manager to sub-manager to sub-sub-manager, when the overspend amounts to less than one minute of any manager's salary.

Sometimes it is subtler; it may seem like a good idea to have "blue sky" meetings, bringing many minds together on a problem, which one would think would produce a better outcome, but in my experience, what always happens is that I'd spend a few minutes considering the problem, evaluating and eliminating various possibilities until it became clear which was best. I'd then be stuck in the meeting for typically an hour or more while other participants championed their preferred solutions, usually those I'd already rejected, until would finally arrive at a consensus "design by committee" that was far from optimum.

I've actually known managers to ask if they could sit in on a meeting, though it was nothing to do with them, because "if I'm not in a meeting, I don't feel like I'm working!" Needless to say, their presence did nothing but slow things down.

We shouldn't, though, label them as defective or ret*d because, well, it's really just a difference...

I should have added that the main benefit of pyramid management structures is that a manager who manages other personnel can only expect a certain salary, a manager who manages other managers can claim more, and so on until we end up with the truly absurd salaries (they like to call it "compensation" as if they'd really rather be doing something else...) of today's fat cat CEOs who are left with little to do with their time (their secretaries could do the job as well).