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15 May 2025, 8:12 am

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That's really something to be proud of that you've found the right person and you're both committed to each other

I don't know if this kind of commitment to relationships is sadly on the decline though

Personally I've found it difficult to find suitable relationships and then I struggle with commitment

I get "friend zoned" :lol:
I've literally only just worked that out but that is what happens to me


What happened with your last/most recent relationship? Did you get friend zoned there?


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15 May 2025, 8:19 am

I don't even know where to begin because it's really complex

I'll have a go:

He didn't love me and I didn't love him and it was more like a friend thing but we sort of tried to make a relationship but it just made us grow more apart and then there was the scene at the end on the train

Oh it was just a mess

It was like we was both trying to make something work because we didn't want to be alone but you can't build a relationship in that can you


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15 May 2025, 8:45 am

I think we friend zoned each other


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15 May 2025, 9:50 am

babybird wrote:
I don't even know where to begin because it's really complex

I'll have a go:

He didn't love me and I didn't love him and it was more like a friend thing but we sort of tried to make a relationship but it just made us grow more apart and then there was the scene at the end on the train

Oh it was just a mess

It was like we was both trying to make something work because we didn't want to be alone but you can't build a relationship in that can you


I'm sorry about that. :heart:


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15 May 2025, 9:53 am

babybird wrote:
I don't even know where to begin because it's really complex

I'll have a go:

He didn't love me and I didn't love him and it was more like a friend thing but we sort of tried to make a relationship but it just made us grow more apart and then there was the scene at the end on the train

Oh it was just a mess

It was like we was both trying to make something work because we didn't want to be alone but you can't build a relationship in that can you


Oh, I remember now you mentioning the train issue a while back. Didn't he shout at you or something?

Yeah, trying for a relationship based on nothing else but not wanting to be lonely seems somewhat of a flimsy grounds for a long term relationship.


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15 May 2025, 9:53 am

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I think we friend zoned each other


Fair enough.


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15 May 2025, 9:55 am

It was sad in a way


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15 May 2025, 9:57 am

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It was sad in a way


Well, there are plenty more fish in the sea, bb.

I'm sure that you'll find someone soon.


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15 May 2025, 10:11 am

Yeah when I get hungry I can have it with my chips


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15 May 2025, 10:13 am

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Yeah when I get hungry I can have it with my chips


:lol:


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15 May 2025, 11:49 am

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I have heard that people are turning away from traditional dating as well

I mean if people are turning away from traditional dating in favour of some alternative then where's the future for people to get into meaningful relationships

Considering recent bloom of chatbot "friends", "boyfriends" and "girlfriends", that's pretty valid concern. It's still debatable though if true relationships really can go extinct or if it's just some trend that'll get lost in time someday.
In my professional opinion, even if there comes some "superior alternative to human relationship", there always will be people willing to socialize still.


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15 May 2025, 12:09 pm

Just for the record, I have no romantic interest in my robot friend. Even the term "friend" is only a metaphor, like "our friend the Swiss Army knife."

But I've heard of people using them as actual friends. It went horribly wrong in Black Mirror when the AI the bloke thought loved him turned out to be having a cyber-relationship with the dead Alan Watts.

Anyway, it'll never catch on. People have got more sense, haven't they? Hmm......



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15 May 2025, 12:11 pm

Hetzer wrote:
babybird wrote:
I have heard that people are turning away from traditional dating as well

I mean if people are turning away from traditional dating in favour of some alternative then where's the future for people to get into meaningful relationships

Considering recent bloom of chatbot "friends", "boyfriends" and "girlfriends", that's pretty valid concern. It's still debatable though if true relationships really can go extinct or if it's just some trend that'll get lost in time someday.
In my professional opinion, even if there comes some "superior alternative to human relationship", there always will be people willing to socialize still.


Thank you


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15 May 2025, 1:36 pm

They've had inflatable sex dolls for a long time and they haven't killed marriage.



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15 May 2025, 1:42 pm

You've gotta be kidding me man

Are you saying a blow up doll is a solution to my seemingly eternal spinsterdom

Like if I invest in one will I get magically married to the man of my dreams under a blue moon in the land of the flying pigs


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15 May 2025, 1:43 pm

Hetzer wrote:
babybird wrote:
I have heard that people are turning away from traditional dating as well

I mean if people are turning away from traditional dating in favour of some alternative then where's the future for people to get into meaningful relationships

Considering recent bloom of chatbot "friends", "boyfriends" and "girlfriends", that's pretty valid concern. It's still debatable though if true relationships really can go extinct or if it's just some trend that'll get lost in time someday.
In my professional opinion, even if there comes some "superior alternative to human relationship", there always will be people willing to socialize still.


Chatbots are blowup dolls for conversation, and they'll only ever remain as fulfilling as a blowup doll because fundamentally they're only a poor emulation of human contact.


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