Have you ever been bullied?

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Yes.

And I fought back.
I always fought back violently.

Many bullies just want to provoke me into chasing them than whatever social hierarchy of being lesser than or not being 'one of us'.

Most of them are boys.
Girls are rare. I know girls won't risk it.

Most of my issues related to bullying is simply my lack of emotional regulation and this fricking chronic sneezing that never went away...



Some kids are scared of me.

Some kids who are usually bullied themselves would rather to go me to hide from the bullies.

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I'm surprised at the number of 'No' votes. I struggle to understand how it's even possible to not have ever been bullied?

There's so many people in the world who seem to go out of their way to be horrible to others.

Happened a lot in middle school and then even more in high school and resulted in negative effects.

Fortunately, the bullying stopped when I managed to get away from school. The problem with school is that people sit together very close and are packed together in little classrooms like sardines. There is nowhere to escape. People are everywhere, and the bullies are under stress and tension due to the closed space, and they look for and lash out at victims.

The best thing in the world is online communication and voice communication, where there is physical distance. That is why we are all on this forum, rather than in a building somewhere in person meeting as a group, such as church. We have discovered it is much nicer to have physical distance from other human beings.

I wasn't but I went to small private schools where there wasn't a culture of bullying. Sometimes people said snide or snarky things to me but it was pretty mild.

Yes, by several different people, at different times during a mainstream high school (pre-diagnosis).

Yes I get bullied by my dad pretty much all day every day for a lot of days.my mom bullies me too.

I was and I fought back.

They did not know I was autistic. But they definitely knew that I was never like the others. Someone who did not fit into any of the molds they had created in their mind during their teaching careers.

Oh. And perhaps some were not aware of this (serious), but getting good grades, even achieving 1st place among your class of 40 for half of sixth grade (~12 yr old), does not mean that the teachers will give any more of a s**t, even if you were bullied during class.

If anything, it just makes it even worse than before by turning yourself into the center of attention and jealousy when the scores are announced.

Unfortunately, there is no happy ending in this story.

As for my current views about the aforementioned affair, I will say only this:

If I were to speak my mind in regard to how I will "deal with" the very same persons who were responsible in some part for this decade-spanning debacle, in the present time, then it becomes a virtual certainty that I will be immediately censured from commenting on or even looking through the forum.

Be assured that I do not and will not engage in such risky behaviors; I have enough problems in my life as it is.

I guess I was bullied. Physically I was hit in the head and had my shoulder wrenched and things like that. Socially I was ostracised. Verbal bullying was the worst I think. I had mean drawings made of me. That hurt my feelings. One (1) thing happened that I suspect I will never be able to talk about.

Teachers were nearly as bad as other kids, because they had more restraint, but when they did say unkind things it had the weight of authority - at least until I stopped hearing what they said as authoritative. The worst thing a teacher ever said about me was (trembling with rage), "I will not have that thing in my class."

It wasn't the worst thing in the world. At the time I had other things on my mind. My parents were better at that sort of thing than any teacher. But walking to school in the mornings was genuinely unpleasant, I did not enjoy it.

I don't have bitter feelings about it now. I had no social skills (really none), I was very different, I made teachers cry. When I look back it all seems sort of inevitable. I am bothered more by the fact that I have learnt social skills late in life and I'm always a bit worried that someone will strip back the curtain and say aha! I knew it all along - you don't really belong here with us, you have been only aping... because I have acquired these skills late, they feel uncertain and precarious.

The peak years were 5th though 7th grade and the first year of college.

The earlier years involved homophobic and antisemitic slurs. Tripping me to get a laugh out of seeing my books and papers flying

In college twice in two nights a driver gunned their car at me swerving away at the last second. When I went to report it everybody laughed.

From the moment I started infants school to the moment I left highschool, by peers and adults alike. Verbal for the most part aside from the odd nudging or having the back of my chair kicked by other kids. I only defended myself violently a small handful of times, I usually just took it until I couldn't and shouted at them to stop. As for adults, my mum was violent when I was a kid, she isn't anymore but she gets into rages and says really evil things. She's the only bully in my life now but it doesn't affect me the same way because I'm used to it. It would be more impactful if a non-relative were to act like that because it would be insanely unthinkable to most, or count as DV.

I wasn't bullied in college/sixth form but I was largely ignored, I was very quiet at that age and rarely spoke so it didn't give anyone a "reason" to bully me but it didn't make me friends either.
The last time I think I was picked on as an adult was when I was 19 and working in a charity shop as a volunteer. My manager hated me.

People who interact with me since tend to be nice to me because I have more control over how I form my social circles. And I think most people consider me likeable enough? I also rarely if ever disclose anything.

I wasn't diagnosed until I was 11 so no one in primary school would have known, they just knew I was eccentric. Teachers suspected it for ages but it didn't stop some of them from treating me like s**t. A lot of kids in highschool knew and it didn't stop them, if anything it probably encouraged them. I got outright emotionally tortured one day by a couple of adults at a work placement for my btec course, they didn't know either. I quit that placement and started a different one. They told me I was of no use to them and stuff like that and one woman said I was entertaining when I tried to defend myself.