Are Autistics Less Attractive Compared To Neurotypicals?

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For accuracy purposes: Blitzkrieg did not directly ask me if I'm married, he asked if I was single, because he wanted to check he wasn't speaking to a married woman.

I hope that settles it for you, Blitzkrieg. If not, I would appreciate it if you took it up directly with the mods.

Thanks guys for your supportive posts.

I never asked an autistic woman I met in person out on a date or even showed interest in them. I just found all the ones I met so far not my cup of tea at all so I can't comment on what women think when someone is sexually interested in them.

Last edited by magz on 29 Dec 2022, 7:30 am, edited 1 time in total.: offensive generalizing removed

!	magz wrote:
	A reminder of L&D boundaries: It is acceptable to talk about unpleasant personal experiences. It is not acceptable to generalize such experiences to whole groups that are likely to include WP members.

I don't think looks are the problem (although it can be a part of the problem on a case-by-case basis). Anything that's a competitive disadvantage makes you less attractive, sometimes that alone is enough even if you're fine in the looks department.

You are aware the post was about the women I met though right? I did say "my platonic contact with them" as in my personal unpleasant experiences.

!	Cornflake wrote:
	Thread unlocked - thanks for your patience.

I'm confused, is this another variation on the incel subject?

Only by the widest imaginable standard (ie. a guy on the spectrum trying to sort out what his roadblocks are). I'd have to imagine the temporary lock was for some other more specific exchange in the thread.

im naturally beautiful with or without make up but i do have goofy teeth that you cant really see that much unless i really smile but i dont smile much -- not because im unhappy or anything im just not the smiling type

i changed my avatar picture to a recent but younger looking one of me with makeup but it doesnt look like me that much because the picture is elongated

I wish I was as attractive as you. From different pictures I've seen of you here over the years you have that sort of very attractive look; wide brown eyes, blonde hair and not so pale skin, and noticeable cheek bones. If I was rich I would get surgery to try and have the same sort of facial features as you.

I don't like my face shape. I look too much like my (NT) dad. He's attractive, but for me (a woman) to look too much like him just doesn't sit right. Whenever I open my phone camera and it's self-facing, my face looks really long and like a rectangle. I just hope my face ain't really that shape. Bloody phone cameras.
I seem to look different in every mirror I look in, some mirrors I look more attractive in than in others and I hope the mirrors that I look attractive in are the "honest" mirrors.
I have a small head but broad shoulders. My eyes are too close together and are sort of a weird blueish-green colour, not really a nice colour for eyes. My forehead is quite small but the bottom part of my face is quite large. And my hair is too thick and straight and a dirty blonde. Plus I have buck teeth that are visible (my top lip doesn't cover them unless my mouth is closed), so if I do ever get decaying teeth it will notice and make me look hideous.
I just look like a dorky idiot.

For what it's worth Joe, I've yet to see an eye colour that made me think to myself 'Huh, what an ugly colour for eyes'.

Blueish green being no exception. I knew a woman with blueish green eyes; the green and the blue were so blended together that I didn't know if her eyes were closer to being green or to being blue. I thought her eyes were quite pretty.

Anyway, I think that we are all more critical of our own appearances than others are of our appearance. You're likely overthinking this one, but I don't blame you. It can be difficult not to be. Still, I sincerely doubt others are as critical to your appearance as you are. If they are, then they're not worth the thought.

I am not usually attracted to men by sight because it takes a lot more for me to be interested in someone than looks. But if I do find someone with attributes that I desire (intelligence, wit, kindness, a righteous beard lol), I get kind of excited when I watch them and discover/suspect they might be a fellow aspie.

So you're demisexual then.

Liking people for their personality has a special label now?

Demisexual means you only feel sexual attraction towards someone after developing an emotional connection with them.

It's not to be confused with asexual, which means you don't feel sexual attraction towards anybody.

Uh, I don't need fancy words to figure out attraction.
Millions of people throughout world history have been atypical aberrations of "sexual".
Sexual urges are meant to make babies.
Most people don't want to make babies with people they don't like.