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26 Jun 2023, 8:22 am

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Researchers would surely set the definitions of what constitutes single vs not-single before doing the study.
One should hope so; but even then, who would care what the 'official' definition might be?

To expand on the concept I presented earlier, I have heard men claim having sex with someone other than their girlfriends is not cheating because they are not married to their girlfriends.  I have also heard women claim that their boyfriends cheated on them after they had broken up.

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A good researcher would compile the survery's questions in a way that are explicitly consistent with their definitions list. How the subjects define them shouldn't matter.



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26 Jun 2023, 7:54 pm

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I hope this isn't another "who has it easier" thread. It's been done to death.


It's amazing how people can't post true facts without getting falsely accused of "claiming the ladies have it easier."

The posters on here who have said a lot more young men are single were simply stating a true fact (backed up by data).

I've seen many other instances on the Love and Dating forum where people get falsely accused of "claiming the ladies have it easier" too (when they said nothing of the sort).

I give people the benefit of the doubt. I don't feel the need to put words in anyone's mouth.
I've noticed this a lot as well on here from both genders. I think the issues are that us Aspies are prone to literal & black & white thinking. Plus we also tend to be frustrated due to a history of bad experiences. We look at what's said/typed here from our own individual biased negativity perspective & this forum becomes a minefield. Who would guess that a forum for people who tend to have major problems with social interaction & reading others & being misread by others would be prone to misunderstandings that get waaay out of hand :wink: I started getting in the habit of posting disclaimers specially stating that they are lots of exceptions so others can not accuse me of claiming that all of whatever gender or group is like blank


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26 Jun 2023, 11:27 pm

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Must me something they put in the water where you are, I’ve never met a man who feared for his safety in a relationship with a woman. In fact I have only known women who have feared for their safety, my mum being the first ever person who I saw experience this.


My brother had an ex who would beat the s**t out of him. He broke up with her not long after he felt endangered enough to hit her back.


Correct me if I'm wrong but that sounds like he didn't fear for his safety, he feared the repercussions of retaliating (until he didn't).


He treated attacks as manageable until there was one where he genuinely felt he was in grave danger.

I'm pretty sure she had hit him long before things started to escalate, I don't think he always viewed her attacking him as a safety risk until she demonstrated she was both willing and capable of making it a safety risk.


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27 Jun 2023, 7:33 am

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Must me something they put in the water where you are, I’ve never met a man who feared for his safety in a relationship with a woman. In fact I have only known women who have feared for their safety, my mum being the first ever person who I saw experience this.


My brother had an ex who would beat the s**t out of him. He broke up with her not long after he felt endangered enough to hit her back.


Correct me if I'm wrong but that sounds like he didn't fear for his safety, he feared the repercussions of retaliating (until he didn't).


He treated attacks as manageable until there was one where he genuinely felt he was in grave danger.

I'm pretty sure she had hit him long before things started to escalate, I don't think he always viewed her attacking him as a safety risk until she demonstrated she was both willing and capable of making it a safety risk.


That sucks dude, I should of said that when you first posted it but my mind was elsewhere. I don't agree with equal rights = equals lefts but I've never been in a position where I feared for my safety but if I did fear for my safety I would defend myself, like to think I could use restraining tactics but who knows. In my experience women seem to be more adept at mental abuse due to my size which obviously is still bad (maybe it was my personality). The new coercive control laws in the UK are really good and should protect men as much as women (fingers crossed).

I don't believe my above comment favours men or women but who knows it's certainly not meant that way.


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28 Jun 2023, 7:51 pm

Younger women mature faster than younger men on average, so while younger men are playing video games, younger women are seeking out partners for themselves.


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I was playing video games.


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28 Jun 2023, 8:00 pm

I'd rather play Cut the Rope than go out on a date and get frisky.


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I was playing games on my Spectrum when others my age were trying to date. Decades later I've found out I was on the spectrum while on my Spectrum 8)


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28 Jun 2023, 8:16 pm

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Must me something they put in the water where you are, I’ve never met a man who feared for his safety in a relationship with a woman. In fact I have only known women who have feared for their safety, my mum being the first ever person who I saw experience this.


My brother had an ex who would beat the s**t out of him. He broke up with her not long after he felt endangered enough to hit her back.


Correct me if I'm wrong but that sounds like he didn't fear for his safety, he feared the repercussions of retaliating (until he didn't).


He treated attacks as manageable until there was one where he genuinely felt he was in grave danger.

I'm pretty sure she had hit him long before things started to escalate, I don't think he always viewed her attacking him as a safety risk until she demonstrated she was both willing and capable of making it a safety risk.


That sucks dude, I should of said that when you first posted it but my mind was elsewhere. I don't agree with equal rights = equals lefts but I've never been in a position where I feared for my safety but if I did fear for my safety I would defend myself, like to think I could use restraining tactics but who knows. In my experience women seem to be more adept at mental abuse due to my size which obviously is still bad (maybe it was my personality). The new coercive control laws in the UK are really good and should protect men as much as women (fingers crossed).

I don't believe my above comment favours men or women but who knows it's certainly not meant that way.


All I know is that he's never weighed more than about 165lbs, she would have been within about 10lbs of that and if I had to pick one or the other to have my back in a fight I'd have picked her without hesitating.

Some folks just aren't fighters and if they're partnered with someone who is, they're liable to get the worst of any physical confrontation even if they should hypothetically have an advantage.

Someone who's completely worked up and intent on inflicting harm can be really difficult to neutralize as a threat, especially if they remain persistent.


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28 Jun 2023, 9:28 pm

^ I'm still amazed when I watch UK cop shows and it can take 3-5 cops to neutralise someone. I only did Ju-Jitsu for a year or so (2 gradings) and i know I could do better that most of the police I've seen on TV (which frankly make it looks like a playground scuffle). I'm sure they must be trained in neutralising people but it appears it all goes out the window when needed. But yeah if you don't have natural fighter instincts you probably aren't going to fair well against a similar sized opponent with the same strength who does.


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29 Jun 2023, 2:16 pm

I am a bit confused on the math here.

If most young men are single and most young women are not, then who are the young women in relationships with?

Also, in my experience and what I see on the internet plenty of younger guys are more interested in hooking up then getting into a relationship with a woman. So at least some amount of them are single by choice.


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29 Jun 2023, 2:35 pm

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I am a bit confused on the math here.

If most young men are single and most young women are not, then who are the young women in relationships with?

Also, in my experience and what I see on the internet plenty of younger guys are more interested in hooking up then getting into a relationship with a woman. So at least some amount of them are single by choice.


Older men maybe? Older woman maybe? dunno :scratch:

Players are obviously going to reply single.


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30 Jun 2023, 10:04 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
I am a bit confused on the math here.

If most young men are single and most young women are not, then who are the young women in relationships with?

Also, in my experience and what I see on the internet plenty of younger guys are more interested in hooking up then getting into a relationship with a woman. So at least some amount of them are single by choice.


Women/AFAB tend to be LGBTQ+ at higher rates than men/AMAB, so part of the answer you are looking for is “each other”.

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Most young men are single. Most young women are not.
[opinion=mine]

Some of this may have to do with the different definitions of 'Single' used by men and women.

• Men tend to call themselves 'Single' only if they are not married.

• Women tend to call themselves 'Single' if they are not in any sort of committed relationship.

Thus, fewer women than men will clam to be 'Single', even if they are not married.

[/opinion]


Perhaps that was the case when you were young, but most men in my age group that I know irl, myself included, use your second definition of “single”.


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30 Jun 2023, 3:12 pm

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I am a bit confused on the math here.

If most young men are single and most young women are not, then who are the young women in relationships with?

Also, in my experience and what I see on the internet plenty of younger guys are more interested in hooking up then getting into a relationship with a woman. So at least some amount of them are single by choice.


Older men maybe? Older woman maybe? dunno :scratch:

Players are obviously going to reply single.
One of my cousins was a playa who used to brag about how he was involved with multiple women & some were not aware of his juggling performance. He was very flashy with money & buying various things to impress others despite having a sh!t tone of deb & getting fired/laid-off from lots of jobs. He moved to California like a decade ago hoping to become an actor & a techno recording artist but mostly does various odd jobs. He has a long-term girlfriend he's been living with & has a kid with & I really hope he's not cheating on her behind her back. Me & him are very opposite from each other.


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30 Jun 2023, 4:27 pm

I suddenly started wondering What is the gender ratio for teen & 20 something adults regardless of their relationship status :?: Perhaps there's more men being born than women? I've always heard that men tend to die younger than women do on average but maybe more women die during childhood, teens, &/or 20s than men & then men start dying at a faster rate in their 30s if this makes any sense :?


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