Whats offending to you with AS?

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To me its offending when a stranger offer to help me

Today I came home from the grocery store with my bike totally overloaded with bags
I was unloading the bike when a lady came and said " can I help you?"
I went so upset that I only throwed a VERY angry look with my eyes in her direction, didnt say a word

I understand (afterwards) that for social NTs its just a friendly offer
but it gives the complete opposite effect on me and piss me off as h**l

Offending to me is also when someone is pity me because I have AS

Like my workconsultant or the phychiatrist
When Im telling something difficult which is to me "no big deal, its just my life and a fact"
and I get the reaction "poor-little-aspie-look-in-the-face"
I dont want to feel sorry for, I want respect and understanding!

Can be interesting to know whats appearing as offending to other aspies
In my case its apparently diffrent from whats offending to an NT

I don't get offended very easily. People generally mean well, so I appreciate the thought.

I get seriously offended by two things. They are, in order of seriousness:

1. Physical contact by people I don't really trust.

This is also related to my mild germophobia, but mostly it's a dislike of physical contact. The reason why it offends me so much, though, is because it's most often done by people who are intentionally trying to annoy me. This makes it worse and they generally do things like make really strong physical contact, which just... makes it a lot worse.

2. Emotional decisions and "common knowledge" decisions

As you may notice by my signature, I believe that reason should rule over all decisions. Instead, people make decisions based solely on their emotions and "common knowledge," which is, more often than not, common ignorance. I'm not even going to get started ranting about people who reject logic and evidence because they think their emotions and "common knowledge" are better for decision making.

I don't offend easily either, but I have great distaste for being judged based on a label.

I also find the "aspie superiority" mentality very distasteful and somewhat offensive, probably due to my distaste of labeling.

As an aspie I have a really high degree of high morals do here are my things that offend me

People who are really low moral
being asked fr directions, I am nearly blindand look it so yeh go figure
I ask realy obvius questions but thats my aspie talking but peope who ask me really Illogical things e.g. I pass my mum with a letter and she asks where am I goiung, so obvious
People who pity me and condescend me because I am multiply disabled but high end, one case is this tmath teacher at my collee for the blind who reated students like absolute crap like they were five but there were a select few of us who were clever, oly one hundred and fifty students. but still treated u like it
People who touch me

Not as much as I should be offended by, apparently. I've had people comment on how someone else was being mean or offensive to me or someone else, and I don't always pick up on it.

People trying to take advantage of me or trying to use me as a ticket for things. I'd be offended if my family asked me to come to Walt Disney World and then told me I should get a disability pass, I would wonder if they want me to come just so they wouldn't have to wait in those long lines and they get on more rides in one day and not have to come back again for more rides.

Another thing I would find offensive is if my work covered the whole bus pass than $25 dollars of it and they told me I should get an Honorary Citizen bus pass, I would think they are being cheap so I was their cheap ticket so they only have to reimburse $25 dollars than $75 dollars for my bus pass and it's more money for them because they didn't have to reimburse that much in my paycheck.

People trying to use anyone with a disability as a ticket because I am sick of society thinking disability is a ticket to things and an excuse.
Another thing I remember about it is kids in my high school trying to get me to pull the fire alarm because they didn't think I'd get in trouble for it. Because they wanted the alarm to be pulled, they figured they could get someone with a disability to do it for them thinking they have a free ticket to doing those things and not get in trouble for it.

People abusing their labels, people abusing handicap permits, people abusing Social Security or food stamps or food drives, etc.

People being intolerant of adult babies and diaper lovers and saying they are sick and pedophiles.

It even sickens me when I hear about people using someone with a disability to do bad things for them such as crime. What are they thinking and are they that stupid thinking people with disabilties get away with crimes and will go scot free and stay unlocked? It's worse when they use someone with mental retardation to do a crime for them. Not fair to those people with the condition and to their family.

I'm not really offended by anything.

Once when I was about 35 a local chicken farmer knew me and often referred to me as a "girly man" [that is the best translation of what he say] because of how I was very quite and intorverted compared to the rest of the others. This upset me a lot as none of anyone understood or heard of Asperger Syndrom at this time as it was long ago.

Is that Vail in your picture?

I absolutely HATE it when people put words into my mouth. They never listen to my actual words, and instead think up a whole new ludicrous meaning to what I said, and then believe their own misperceptions!

It's offensively absurd.