I cant take care of myself and no one else will

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I'm so sad. No one will help me. I cant take care of myself and i need help but no one cares .. i wish i could kill myeslf because this world is just bad.

I dont want to play anymore.

I cant take care of myself and it is wrong for me to expect people to do everything for me. but i cant do it myself and i never will.

I dont know why god made me this way but it is a sad exsistince.

My mom and dad wont help me get anywhere. I cant sleep and ive bene oing on 4 hours a night for the past week.

What all is it that you are having difficulty doing to take care of yourself?
Is it meant as specific daily actions like cooking and stuff; or, is it meant as being on your own supporting yourself with a job and such?
Or is is both?

You do sound quite frustrated, sorry

I'm about where you are at the moment, so hang in there. We all take care of each other, whether we know it or not.

It hard to cook clean dress myself clean myself. Go out act normal. Act happy cause im sad all the time.

I cant do anything without stress. and when i stress out people get upset.


My parents want to drug me up to my eye balls. and i cant do anything. I'm jsut broken.

Last edited by just-me on 23 Sep 2009, 11:59 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I feel a good deal of us are connected, or something, since us Aspies tend to go through the same phases at the same time. I'm so damn pooped all the time from the constant stress, I can't really handle much of the normal activities I need to either.

Try aiming for a natural method. Vitamin B complex will make you feel a little better about yourself and work with any medications you might be taking. Kinda gave me a good energy boast and made me feel great when I was taking it within a week of taking it. I don't like the idea of the drugs myself either. If not on any drugs try taking St. John's Wort. Careful though it does have side effects and shouldn't be mixed with anything. Takes about 3-6 weeks to have a good effect. I believe it has helped me a little.

I too have felt like you are feeling. If you need a friend to vent to or talk to I will cast no judgment. I could use a friend myself.

My depression usually lifts very quickly...so when it lasted more than a few days, I tried St. John's Wort with excellent results. I used the homeopathic for about 3 weeks. But I really felt a lot better after only a couple days. The only reason I took it for a few weeks was because I wanted the depression to be completely cured.

That was a year ago and I haven't been depressed more than 2 hours since then. I highly recommend SJW, as do many others on this board. Still, there are people here who will tell you to stay away from it. I don't know why. Perhaps they never even tried it. For me, there were absolutely zero side effects and it worked perfectly. It may not work for everyone, but I think it's definitely worth trying, if you haven't done so.


Another suggestion I would make is caffeinated coffee---just a very little bit when you get up in the morning, like a few teaspoons, or a quarter cup at the most. Just try and see if it doesn't give you a boost.....more energy to get things done. If you do a quarter cup and then a few hours later want to do another quarter cup, that's cool. But try not to overdo, because caffeine can be over stimulating for sensitive people. The reason I'm suggesting it is because it may help you to get things done, and getting things done may ultimately take some of the stress off. But please be careful, as you already have some trouble with getting enough sleep. Caffeine can make that worse.

Also....Have you tried music to lift your mood a little bit? Perhaps even make you happy?

And try to get some sun every day. Vitamin D is so necessary for feeling good.

And....Chamomile tea----has the opposite effect of caffeine. Chamomile tea is very very relaxing. After drinking the tea, you may not feel stressed at all. You could drink it an hour before going to bed at night. It may help you get to sleep sooner and sleep deeper and longer.

Hope you feel better soon.

Ive started taking a multi vitamin that has the b vitamins in it. It also has the needed minerals too.

I do drink coffee every morning during the week. It does help me get up and moving when i need to. Plus i love the taste.

I'm doing a bit better now that that busy week i had is over.
It was also stressfull. I caught 2 people out in my yard robbing my stuff. Lucky for me they didn't get confrontational. They just said that they thought no one was home and put the stuff back.

I think they were broke from the recession and got desperate. So i did not call the cops since they put the stuff back.


My uncle ask me out . He is not my uncle but he is related to me.. I just call him my uncle cause i can never remember how he is related.
He asked me out and i really got freaked out about it. I told my parents but they think he must have been joking. I know he wasn't. It was really creepy.

But hopefully next week will be slower and less stressful. I seem to have a lot of stress in my life. I"m dealing better today though.

Thanks for once again being here for me everyone!

I stress back and forth between having most of the help I need with cooking, cleaning, bathing, dressing, etc., but having my every move monitored and sometimes used against me when miscommunications arise.

I've found OTC mood stabilizers, B complex, etc. helpful but I can never remember to take them on any regular schedule. Found Ginko and B12 helpful for my memory - but I have to remember to take them first.

You seem to have many OCD traits and as you mention "addictions".
I'm not in the position to advise you on these areas but I do think that it might help to change your identity name from Gingersnaps to something not associated with any of your addictions. I say this because with Gingersnaps you are reinforcing your identification with food and most likely with something you're really tempted .
Maybe choose a neutral or positive identifyer such as Slimchic or Freshfruitandveg.....do you get my "drift"?

Most things do not greatly improve my functioning. I think it may be because bad things happen to me alot. I think more then the average person. This causes me stress and worsens my condition.

Although i feel I'm gradually improving. Its been a few years since Ive been on meds and i've seen my self gradually getting better since then.

Its just the times when i get overwhelmed or stressed by bad things happening to me.

Like my mom getting sent the the hospital and almost going to the icu the only reason she didn't was because it was full. She will also be dead in 10 years the doctor told me. (from smoking)

And my family is still at risk of losing there home because they cant pay the mortgage.

I have bad back problems , problems only a person of twice my age should have.


I also get memories resurfacing about the abuse i suffered as a child which is bad.

I am not massively upset about all this. I only list it to show that despite all my stress I'm still holding it together.

In fact I'm gradually improving. Its just that sometimes it all catches up with me.

This is why i think meds don't work on me.

That was grossly innapropriate of your uncle, even if it was a joke, especially if you were abused as a child!

Sorry to hear you're down; hope you feel better soon. Things that I find work are;

walking,
listening to happy music
immersing myself in a project
seeing new stuff (even if it's hard to motivate myself to do so)

Hope that helps!

agreed. it was creepy of him to do that.

every tried watching happy movies as a way of cheering yourself up a little?

im sorry

im in the same boat

sorry to say


you have to have a overall game plan of what trying to accomplish

if your just live day to day hand to mouth your still gonna be like that later

this is something requires a purposeful effort to dig out of

wich is very hard

i know why bad things happen

to people such as us

the drugs break down spirtual walls and psychological and distrupt auras

added to being full of negative energy the universe will react hostilly till it is fixed

also add to the fact drugs affect peoples sociallization

if you are really deperate you can try to get hooked up with your ddd

warning though i know that your state has a really bad rep for social services(they really like drugging people)

and you might be giving up power

there is a great song

power man 5000

nobodies real

livng so free is a tragedy if you cant be what you want to be

living so free is a tragedy is you cant see what you need to see