Potential Relationship

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Hello everybody..... been a lurker for ages but finally decided to ask you guys for advice !

I am male and gay and have met a guy who I am getting to like a lot. He seems keen on me too as far as I can tell. I am nervous as the only other relationship I have been in, with a girl, was a disaster and really left me pretty depressed and feeling used. He seems to understand me, if anything too much, and is taking it really slowly and gently. He knows I have aspergers (guessed it before I told him) and he accepts it. I really want this to work but I am scared that it will all go wrong because I won't know how to act, won't know to reciprocate. Should I give it a try....

thanks

Worst thing to possibly do is to think:

"OH MY GOD NOES, I AM BEING SUCH AN IDIOT"....

Because that will lead to you being an idiot.

When you have a crush on someone, you get nervous and panicy. C'est la vie. Just don't stack mistakes.

Let's say you do something awkward. Don't LIE about it 5 seconds later.

Just realize you both have the best intentions. The worst that can happen if you stay relaxed is that you become friends.

Stay focused on what you are doing but with added sensitivity to your partners' needs.
When you realize that it is normal for your partner to feel stress because you have shifted the familiar balance it will be easier to offer reassurance to your partner.