Do you eavestdrop on people?

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Is it an aspie tendency to eavesdrop or overhear other people's conversations? I do it sometimes in order to not ask direct questions of people and to learn more about their personal lives. As people have a tendency to put on a mask in public, by listening to others without being noticed you can learn a lot of things about that person.

Only on accident. Sometimes my ears catch what someone says and then I started listening if it's interesting. Like yesterday, I overheard my mom talking about me to my cousin and my husband. All it took for her was to say my name for me to listen and she was talking about how "brutally honest" I am.

I don't do it.

I have done it accidentally.

I think one of the problems I've had in the last few years with socialising is that I seem to have better or more articulate hearing than ordinary people (it's with eyesight too).

I can sometimes hear things from across a crowded room - I once repeated to a friend what he had said (he was across the room) and he was pretty amazed.
i think there is a general aspie tendency to have sensitivities like this.

I can get easily distracted in social environments. It's almost as if my brain 'wants' me to eavesdrop.

So, now that I have some awareness about it, I can focus more easily. Also I don't care as much at all for being in social situations.

Anyway, no, I don't think I would ever do it deliberately - if it accidentally happens I am really uncomfortable with it.

I HAVE to do it - otherwise, people would never tell me anything, or they'd talk about me behind my back. I have to eavesdrop a lot on my mother and her phone conversations. I don't give a crap if it's illegal - no one is keeping anything from me.

I can't seem to help doing it in my workplace as I'm in one room with two other people. Someone comes in to socially chit-chat with one person and I automatically turn around to listen. I don't do it when they're talking about business/clients though.

All the time. That is, I don't really eavesdrop - I just am there and don't look at the people because it's easier for me to concentrate on what's being said that way. If they believe I'm not paying attention it's their problem, isn't it? (Yes I understand that it might seem creepy to them that I actually pay attention to what they say when I don't seem to care, rather than seeming to care and thinking about the grocery shopping that needs to be done.)

... I give my best to zone out when the conversation is about private matters, though. Or boring.

I do it all the time deliberately and feel no qualms for that. It's like being an alien or observing ants-

I don't go out of my way to hear what others are saying, but if I can hear them clearly from wherever I happen to be then I'll pay attention while pretending not to. I just see it as absorbing information that might help me understand people better, much like what was described in the people-watching topic.

I have accidentally overheard other people's conversations for whatever reason, but I would not eavesdrop intentionally as I think it is rude. Plus, there is also the chance that there are things being said that I don't want to hear, so not eavesdropping means I don't get to hear them.

i used to do it as a kid, so i could get one up on the game but now i dont do it anymore

I do it all the time. I can't help but listen to conversations in a crowded room/resteraunt. Sometimes I'll get distracted by someone else's conversation and fall out of one I'm in. I don't see accidental or incidental evesdropping as a bad thing. If you go out of your way to evesdrop I can see why people would be offended. Otherwise, it's not my fault you broadcast within my recieving range.

It happens to me all the time, whether I try or not, so I try to make good use of it.

I think I compensate for my ability to 'get' what is going on by being a little more vigilant about the things people around me do and say. I watch more closely than most people, although they can't detect what I am doing.