Ever felt like the "bad guy"?

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I think the world is focused on viewing itself as very black and white with limited shades of gray and you’re often seen as good or bad. While it’s more complex than that, it’s not always the case with many people. Among other people, have you felt like that they thought you were bad compared to the rest of them for whatever reasons?

I felt like at times I been the “bad guy” for stupid reasons. While in high school, I was a saint to the teachers, but not so much to the students. I was annoyed by their loud talking throughout the whole class period and them asking me for paper and such, than getting mad if I refused. Like it’s my fault that they didn’t bring extra paper or my job to make sure they keep stocked. I was basically an extra source of resources to them till I got annoyed with that role. Beyond school, I have committed the “great crime” of not talking to people. I mean, seriously, people seem to hate it if you want to keep to yourself.

Nowadays, I feel like I’m becoming darker and darker. With so much stupidity among my fellow men and women, how can I have much positive feelings for them and thus be selfless? Being selfish and not feeling remorse for your actions seems to be a pretty common criminal trait. That’s not to say I or others are criminals because of that, but it does seem to be part of a dark path.

Hmmmm....I don't know. I see issues as black and white.. I lost alot of friends over the years because I was uncompromising in that respect... but for me, I see the world as inherently good, with just a few bad apples mixed in. My hubby, who's NT, sees humankind as wretched and thinks the world is going to hell in a handbasket, so to speak. On a daily basis I try to be nice and kind to everyone (it's part of my faith), so since I have been trying to show kindness as much as possible, I see myself as nicer than most ppl in the world.

I agree that people do show varying degrees of stupidity. But I wonder how much of that is pure ignorance on their part? Not that it makes it any better or anything...I just try to give them the benefit of the doubt in that regard.

I feel that we're all stuck in this mess together (life) and that being the case, why not help each other out and make it easier for each other? That's what I strive to do. I'm not the best communicator socially by far, but what's great about showing love (concern, compassion, etc) is that it's a universal language.

I wish I was a bad guy. That way I would not care what people say or do to me.

Since my diagnosis I now realize I was probably the bad guy, when all along I've blaming others.

But I guess I wouldn't call it bad so much, as just unaware. But that unawareness made for bad situations.

I am the bad guy

I'm the nice guy. I have a hard time being bad.

Yeah, often. Misunderstandings just tend to get me cast as such. There isn't a bad bone in my body.

I am the good guy. But my social problems give NT's the idea that I am a bad guy. Except for the few that care to take the time to know me. Then I am the good guy.

When i am selfless, I usually realize later that I was being used. People with real needs seem to be few and far apart. I always feel that I will be the bad guy if I don't give of my time or resources. I don't want to be the bad guy, but I need to be more selfish.

I was made to my entire childhood by both parents, peers, teachers and siblings. I remember feeling as if I was walking on eggshells most of my childhood because I was afraid of pissing one of my parents off. I was afraid of my father because he would go into blind rages and throw me into walls and stuff. My mum would yell at me a lot espicaly if my neice was involved. My mum says she felt like she was walking on eggshells rasing me but I felt I was walking on eggshells too. I just suffered in scilence or couldn't get the right words out or both. I think my teachers and peers enjoyed making me feel small and as if I was the villian.

Yes I have. Lot of kids didn't like me and I was seen as selfish or weird or spoiled or mean or rude. Well I was selfish then and rude. I wanted everything my way and was so inflexible when my friends be over. I wanted them to do everything I wanted to do. Plus I teased then and didn't know when to stop. I was hyper and obnoxious and it was so hard to control my behavior and not act up I had to try harder to control it.

Plus kids make me out to be the bad guy if I didn't give them my stuff or if I didn't so what they told me to do. And I was always the bad guy when little kids upset me and ruin my stuff. That's because I was older and I was expected to show a good example but because I had emotions of a toddler then or so, I acted like one when I got upset and it get me into trouble. I push them or hit them or spit at them. When I was ten, I was more of a six year old. Back then my life was harder because I didn't know how to act my age and mom always get mad at me for not acting my age. So that's why I copied other kids my age and I still got in trouble.


Today I can be the bad guy. There are certain people I can't stand so I don't respect them. I find it interesting when I give lectures about how AS is no excuse and how they need to learn this or that, aspies start comparing it to broken legs and hearing loss and vision loss. It's like they want excuses and they are mad I was right so they try and make me be the bad guy. That's one example there.

Other people universally label me as the "good guy". People frequently tell me that I'm one of the nicest/sweetest/kindest young ladies they've ever met.

Pretty much the only time I think I'd get labelled a "bad guy" is when I defriend/stop talking to other people online for no apparent reason. The actual reason I do this is not because I dislike the other person, but because I'm afraid of either hurting them or getting hurt by them if I continue the relationship. I've even done this to a couple members of WP and I feel really bad about it.

I am the bad guy.

I'm black and white too.

I try not to hide from it, as I can take it.

I do remember being obsessed with the dark side, at the age of 10. Skeletor from He Man was my role model. A very far cry, from today.

I'm a unique person who does not really conform to stereotypes so some(or lots) of people misunderstand me. Some people think I'm bad because they misinterpret things I say or the way I act. People think I'm being mean or rude when I'm really trying to be helpful. I also feel like my mom thinks I'm bad because I stay home & keep to myself. Apparently spending time alone playing video-games while listening to bad music makes people become homicidal maniacs I think she's been watching too much Dr.Phil

It's why I choose to interact with society only when I must as many of the social "norms" or the status quo border on anathema to me, I'm not that black or white, I have beliefs from both sides of the "fence" as it were. People seem more comfortable if they can pidgeon-hole everyone with a set of traits common to people with that label - however in my mind this attitude also leads to many avenues of misinterpretation, vagueness and hypocrisy.

Anyway, back to the question, yes I feel like the bad guy sometimes but I just remind myself that this is simply because the rest of the world has fooled themselves into thinking they're the good guy. Narcissistic? Sure, but it saves a whole load of self-loathing.