Liking a foreign exchange student - need help

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OK so today classes started again and in one of my classes I noticed this really pretty girl. We started to play a game where we have to introduce ourselves and I made my way over to where she was sitting and sorta introduced myself and asked if she needed help, and she said she doesn't know how to play, but she had an accent, and I asked where she is from and she said she is from Germany. She seemed kinda shy. So I started to help her fill out her sheet but then the bell rang.

What could I do to flirt with her and get conversations going? She speaks good English, but she seemed kind of nervous, being a foreign exchange student and all. I'm 16 years old and not that socially awkward, I'm more like a quiet NT who doesn't push himself on people. But I've never had a girlfriend and in my sophomore year (last year) I started to make a lot of friends with girls who see me as cute in a "little kid" way, if you get it (if not, ask) I think I am good looking, I'm tall and thin and very clean, but that is an opinion that varies from person to person.

I read somewhere that a lot of successful HFA guys end up with foreign/immigrant girlfriends because they don't understand the whole social ladder ordeal, and I'm not unpopular but I'm not the most popular guy either. What could be some things I could talk to her about? Would it be a good idea to ask her where she is from in Germany, or what life was like there? And then later I could ask her if she wanted to go get coffee or go to a park or something? Or is this a really bad idea and way out of line? Normally I am not the type to push myself on people (because I don't like when people push themselves on me) and I'll be able to pick up if she dislikes me, but should I say the things I mentioned?

okay, didn't read the whole thing. Pretty much just got down to the part where she's from Germany.

Consider moving to Germany someday perhaps?
i hear it's nice there

Give her schnitzel!

...or let her sample American cuisine.

LOL, I will, anywhere in Scandinavia or Eastern Europe. I always go for the blond girls

But I need serious answers, they will be very much appreciated.

Okay, lol.

Sure, make conversation with her. Be a friend to her first. Ask her what's life like in Germany, how is she adjusting to American life, this will give her an opportunity to ask questions about American culture.

I went through this with a Japanese exchange student. Granted she was a girl like me but we ended up answering our questions about American and Japanese cultures.

OK, yesterday I talked to her about her, and walked her to French class and it went good, she was smiling and everything Today she asked for my help again when I first saw her and we talked, but by the end of class, I was walking out right behind her and didn't spark a conversation Me doing that, is this kind of thing a big deal or was the awkwardness all in my head? I tend to over analyze things when I'm thinking about girls. I seriously need advice.

I think you were okay. You talked earlier, you don't need to be talking every second.

Just take things slowly.

You seem to be doing alright since she asked for your help the following day.


As Metal_man says theres no need to talk everytime you see each other, I tried that a few times and it ended up with me boring the other person to death(I had already run out of suitable topics and I didnt want her to think I had lost interest on her) or her thinking Im too needy before the previous thing happens.


As for the advice ask her if she has any plans for the weekend and if she doesnt offer to do something with her(going to a movie, showing her sround town if she is new there and so are the most advisable choices).

Hey!!

Remember, she is NOT American, so do not compare her to other American women.. or Canadian
Different cultures. She may have no problem 'just hanging out'
What is her HOST family like?
How long has she been here? What has she seen?
etc..

I did some googling to see if I could find some comparisons
That American women were also comparing on.. and this one has a couple expats
saying what they found different.. one still there sounds as thrilled with north America as I am..

http://www.topix.com/forum/business/onl ... 2C9UKNM5F5

ohh and for .. whatever.. yahoo.. lol

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index ... 753AACB5b2

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index ... 503AAQ9crk

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index ... 552AAWWfRH

But seriously.. just relax, she may be as nervous as you.. or more so, she is not on her 'home-ground'
but ask her to do something.. study? coffee?

good help for me.

As long as she's not using you to get US citizenship, she's just like any other girl in the world. Treat her normally, flirt, ask her out, hang out, etc.