"It's all in your head"

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Anyone completely sick of hearing that one over and over again? I've decided to start lying whenever anyone asks me about myself, my life and how I'm doing.

"Yeah, I'm doing fine. I'm going back to college next semester. Life is great. Everything's fine", "Sorry I can't go, I have some important business to take care of. Uhh.. work-related stuff", "I have a car. I just don't use it because it's... uhhh.. broken or something".

Well, technically, it IS "all in your head"--it's your neurological wiring, right?

However, that doesn't make it any less real.

The saying is 100% true. But just because it's all in your head, does not mean the you can get it out of there!

Yep. If you are honest people will assume that you want to discuss your problems. That makes them uncomfortable and they want to get out of it.

Well, I don't discuss these things with strangers, but the frustrating part is that I have to lie to my own family and close friends, because they would tell me my difficulties are only as real as I imagine them to be.

And the answer is:

"Duh! That's the whole point, stupid! Inside my HEAD, there's a BRAIN! Stuff goes on there, that is just as real as anything going on outside of it. Do you think you're telling me something I don't KNOW? Your comment is neither enlightening, nor is it helpful."

*insert voice of Fez, from That Seventies Show*

"Now, GOOD DAY!"

"But..."

"I said GOOD DAY!"

My family didnt believe me either. Started with my father. Then told my sister. Then told my mother (in person) and boy that caused a hellfit. Since then, her boyfriend brought up the events of that horrendous night to his shrink (he's in for alcoholism) and the shrink told him AS was probably right... so now my mom is a bit more open to the idea.

If I had it all to do over again, I'd probably try doing something like leaving books about autism / AS laying around the house for them to find.

I know what you mean. It's like, the ones who say "it's in your head" do not give much credibility or validation to what you are worried about, they don't think it's real. Some guy gives me a dirty look, I say, "I don't think he likes me, he glared at me" and whomever I expressed concern to replies, "It's in your head!" and I am thinking "Uh, no it's not" because I know what I saw and it was a look of anger or repulsion or something expressing disgust, so, how, exactly can that be "in my head?".
I wish they would say, "Maybe you're right, that guy doesn't like you for some reason". It would be far less confusing.

Still, it doesn't always help to worry about trifles and trivialities.

I've stopped telling my family about my problems, because they would just tell me, that my problems are all in my head. It's got to the point, where I had to move out, and live on my own.

When you think about it, pretty much everything is in your head. Pain, love, color, joy, sadness, everything. If someone is crying because their pet/parent/friend died, people don't just say 'Get over it, it's all in your head.' Yet it IS all in their head. People who use the term 'It's all in your head' don't seem to understand that something being in your head doesn't mean it doesn't matter.

Thats exactly what my therapist says to me.

LOL! When I first tried discussing my aspergers with my sister a few years ago she told me it was all in my head, in the metaphorical way. Now it's all in her head! She is recently self diagnosed but getting tested for ASD too.

This phrase is also used for people suffering with CFS, fibromyalgia, and other "invisible illnesses", which I also suffer with. People won't take your pain or limitations seriously, and it's very frustrating to be written off by friends, family, and doctors.