everything going wrong... how does it find me?????

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OK.... I've been having an incredible aspie couple of days. Whilst waiting for my home health nurse yesterday morning I sliced my left thumb from the nail back to the middle of the pad. SO she had to take me for stitches before my regular therapy

the nurse kept asking me if I "did it on purpose".... couldn't comprehend that

Then today all plans shot to hell... nothing went right

and Finally, my 18 year old fridge died.... yes it's dead.

I just spent a fortune on tuitions, printers, trip in October, etc. and now a new refrigerator.

Do I know these things and then make the worst plans possible or what.. what is it? I am stumped and know that part of the aspie-ness of me.

H.

If something goes as planned and well, i just KNOW something else is gonna come and blow in my face, to bring me back down again. I don't know if it's karma or smth else.

You should try doing the opposite. You watched that seinfeld episode? "if every instinct you have is wrong, then the opposite would have to be right"

i'm with R_odin on that one. welcome to WP harobed!

Ow! Telling me about your cut made all my muscles bunch up! Ow!

I think that Aspies are unlucky most of the time and I am basing it on Science, or at least an article I read in Scientific American.

A study had determined that extroverted people are much luckier than introverts. Now, although many of us might not be introverts as much as failed extroverts, the impact is probably the same.

Lucky people are out amongst the NTs and thus lucky things tend to fall upon them. How lucky can you be holed up in your house, or walking all alone around town.

Too bad about the finger. How about the nurse asking you if you did it on purpose? This is why I fear for our future.

I went to a psychologist after my divorce to assist me in working things out. First thing he asked was if I was having thoughts of killing myself. I told him that he would be the last person I tell, since I refuse to give up ownership of my life or death. However, after 6 months with him, I was far closer to ending it all.

I actually get offended by questions like that. They think they mean well, and some probably do, but I think they are misguided to put their values on me.

Well, Good Luck to you ,and I really do mean it.

Ouch! D:

(Okay, I was going to start with a hello, but I couldn't help it.)

Anyways, I just thought I'd welcome you, even though I'm rather new here myself.
I've noticed that aspies tend to sometimes get stuck in a loop of seeming like we can never do anything right. (Not meaning to speak for anyone else, but at least, that's my experience, and it seems to be shared by at least a few others). In any case, welcome! And sorry about your finger.

Scotty1: That's a good article to bring up. It makes a lot of sense, though I've never really believed in "luck", myself. It is interesting to see the acknowledgment of this fact, though:

"Many of us might not be introverts as much as failed extroverts, but the impact is probably the same."

Forgive me if I'm streaming too far off the topic, but while personality tests have always told me I was extroverted, everyone observing seems to assume (and often say) I'm introverted. I never stopped to think about being a failed extrovert.

I can see what you mean about the psychologist, though. Not to say anything bad about psychologists, but my old psychiatrist was anything but help in my case. (But then again, I received quite a few misdiagnoses up until recently. ADHD, ODD (which was really shocking, and after going over it in my DSM-IV, couldn't believe it at all), Schizophreniform disorder (Not in the least.)...and too much medicine I didn't need for conditions that were the current "fad", while my current counselor seems to have a good understanding of AS, many of the ones I've had don't seem to have much understanding of AS at all.

It's hard enough as it is to even admit I have AS, but when I see how many other people don't understand it...I'm flat out scared to admit it. I don't want to be treated like I'm defective, or stupid.

Magpie,

It can be hard to admit. I have promised myself to tell some family members about A.S.. I need to get the courage up. Is it better to just be aloof or have people believe that you don't want to bother with them, or let them know that you don't know how?

Back to the thread though, It seems to me that if we interact more with other Aspies, then our luck would have a greater chance of changing. That's at least what I got out of the article. That's why sites like Wrong Planet, and groups like GRASP, could be a game changer for so many people with A.S.

I think what many of you guys are attributing to Asperger's is just the human condition. Fortune comes and goes - for everyone. Though I would like disambiguation on what "NT" means.

harobed, your condition is debilitating enough to require a live-in nurse?

Hello from a newbie in the UK . What has happened to your fridge is known as Sod`s Law.... if something will go wrong ,it will. Though I spent a lot of time in a 1step forward 2 steps back mind while I was trying to get through depression. Good Luck to you.

Chipz,

What I was really trying to relate was the concept that if you are out socializing, more opportunities will come your way. Opportunities just popping up, would be considered lucky by many.

For instance, if you lost your job, and you had a large circle of friends, they might discuss your unemployment, and your availabiltiy might be relayed to someone looking to hire.
You could get a phone call out of the blue and be asked to interview before the job becomes knowledge to other job seekers. Many people would say this is luck. The luck came from being able to build relationships, not some universal sort of luck.

Of course, a job opening is just an example, you could put many other circumstances in there and get the same result.

I think that socialization has a lot to do with how lucky you are from birth. If your parents were very social, they were likely able to attact healthier mates who were also social. This has a direct impact on your genetics and your environment. Thus you can be born lucky into that family with those genes. I am using the word lucky here to mean what can be percieved by someone not analyzing the science of this.

harobed, your condition is debilitating enough to require a live-in nurse?[/quote]

Not the aspergers.... I'm lucky enough to be blessed with several rare, but interesting if you like rare, diseases. One of them requires infusion treatment, thus the home healthcare nurse.

H.

It happened to me AGAIN this weekend! On friday, i prepped everything for another year at university, lots of bureaucracy, filling papers and stuff. SO, i arranged everything and i was quite pleased that all went good. Too good actually, because my trusty MX Revolution mouse died yesterday Couple of hours of cursing later, i found my warranty and i took it to a repair shop. Good thing i didn't trashed it against a wall or smth... I hope they can repair her, they gave me some cheap wired replacement mouse for the time being.

Little things, but i HATE seeing this pattern repeating itself over and over!