Does this tend to happen?

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29 Dec 2010, 8:18 pm

I am quite ugly myself and my girlfriend is not good looking eitherLOL

do you think aspie men have to hook up with ugly girls on thier first date because good looking girls reject men with aspergers etc.....?

or can a man with aspergers find a good looking women if he wants?

Refer to this video here if you want to see what i mean

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iztQATPMkCM

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29 Dec 2010, 8:21 pm

Jamesy wrote:

or can a man with aspergers find a good looking women if he wants?

Any ass can find a good-looking woman if he wants.

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29 Dec 2010, 8:26 pm

My girlfriend wouldn't have to be good-looking, but despite this, I still can't find anyone. Ok, I didn't try much. I'll try someday.

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29 Dec 2010, 8:36 pm

It's not a question of looks with me. It's more of who can put up with my tantrums, periods of silence, one word answers and my inability to give a hug on cue.

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29 Dec 2010, 9:14 pm

I think it's more about social skills. Which I seem to lack.

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29 Dec 2010, 9:17 pm

well I am sure your girlfriend appreciates being called ugly and that you only are with her because no one else will date you
all women just love to be told they're being settled for
you sure know your stuff man

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29 Dec 2010, 9:23 pm

WintersTale does that mean if you have poor social skills you cannot find the girl you want?

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30 Dec 2010, 1:15 pm

Way to go saying your girlfriend isn't attractive to you. Does she know you feel that way?

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30 Dec 2010, 1:23 pm

As a general rule, don't date someone you don't find attractive. The inconvenient truth is that each of us is more attracted to some people than others, and while our standards may differ, we are all affected by this (unless you're asexual, but then why would you care). It isn't particularly nice to say to someone "I just don't find you appealing in that way", but it's much worse to string them along thinking they have something they don't. You can't give yourself to someone totally if you feel this way. It's not fair to you or the other person to be in this kind of relationship. You're wasting time that both of you could be spending finding a partner that suits you better. Honesty is the best policy here. You're way better off alone than with someone you aren't attracted to.

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