I have no ambitions or goals. Why was I even born?

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Seriously. I'm starting to see the light of society and that is the fact that you need purpose and you need to have a passion for something in your life.

I'm starting to see that I never had this. I never had a defined career choice. I spent so much of my time and money in high school trying to find my place in musical theater (like my sister and aunt before me) only to find myself getting chewed out by students who treat the theater like a profession and never getting cast in one single play. One play seriously that's all I wanted out of my entire grade school like was to be in one school play. The pressure of needing to have direction and goals in college caused me to have a massive breakdown during my final semester of high school (although without that breakdown I never would've gotten my AS diagnosis. So I'll give it that much).

College was a dud. Started out with a major that I picked off the top of my head because I couldnt think of anything better then switched to a major my sister semester and added one that I thought I would be interested in only to find that I sucked. And the only explanation for why I sucked at everything I ever wanted to do or was forced to do is clear: I didnt care for doing these things as much as I thought.

I'm sick of wasting anymore years on something I only find myself not really caring for. These goals and ambitions are only imaginative ideas in my head that I cant really put to work in the real world. I feel that if I was passionate enough to do something like writing I would've done it. This was my proposed plan to my parents in 2008 and since then I have not done one single significant thing with this career choice nor have I picked up a pencil or written a single original piece of writing.

I was right for not wanting to go to college since I had no real career goals or choices. I have no interest in getting married or having children. I'm just waiting for the clock to run out on my life because I dont have any real goals or passions or ambitions. I fear to even consider any new possible career choices as I am afraid that it will take me another 4 years to realize I only pursued such a career halfass and never had the real passion for it that I should've. I'm serious here.

I never had any ambition or goals until a couple years ago.

Hey man, I'm the same. I have no real ambition in me. I just try to, well distract myself, from my reality with a false one by sitting in front of a tv to pass the time. I have interests but nothing I can make a career of. I went to university and studied a bachelor of science degree in construction economics. I learnt just about everything you could think of, as part of my studies. Civil engineering, architecture and design, law, economics, physics, maths. And still I didn't like the whole thing, or even wanting to branch of into law or economics. I feel empty and have nothing, no real desire other than not wanting to have inner turmoil. I don't really know if this is an aspie trait or not, but it's really something I've always had. I wish I could tell you what to do to change these feelings but I haven't found an answer either. Just hang in there and have hope. I hope things become better for you and me in the future. Good luck...

If you have difficulties with this at short term, I suggest you to 'help one person' every day, or stuff like that. It helps to see we make a difference in someone's life!

Er, by finding out what you don't like, you're kind of narrowing down what you do like, if that makes sense. I seriously changed my major 5 times in 5.5 years in college. I finally graduated, and I'm probably not going to do anything directly related to my degree. Not that it's not going to help me out all the time, since it still kind of does. I just finally found my thing as soon as I graduated. It took a while.

You are not alone OP. I never had an overriding passion or goal. I could never overcome my inertia.

to the OP:
everything of any import that i ever wanted, was blocked from my access by insurmountable barriers. in the banquet of life, all i could manage to rate was the leftover crumbs on the floor. i have found therefore, that one should systematically lower one's expectations of life until they match one's mundane reality, if only to avoid the suffering that comes from constantly thwarted goals.

Your goal is clearly to find a goal for yourself
problem solved!

But seriously I felt the same way and still do in a lot of ways but you just have to have faith that things will get better. Take a deep breath and don't worry about having goals just try to relax and if you can meditate on the subject. Buddha sat under a tree for 9 years before he knew what his plans were!

I feel this way too since i'm 26 and just barely back in community college, I've been going to it on and off since I finished High School, I only have a High School diploma, that's all, and working at a grocery store at the moment, been working there for a year and a half now

Same. I hate my life. It sucks. No one understands me. No one wants to really talk to me.

We are here to experience little bouts of fervent joy in-between the droughts of suffering.

As far as not finding the profession or vocation that really interests you, I would say that is true for most people NT and ASD, like 70% of the planet. They instead find what work they can, and then try to steer into the least unpleasant jobs (to them) within that field. For most, having a steady job is enough.

I started my own thread on this in the college and school section

Sometimes I'm fired up about writing, but as of late, I'm totally without any inspiration or ambition, and seemingly content to vegetate.

if I could move better I'd have more energy to do stuff.

I ask myself the same question everyday.

All I have ever been passionate about has never offered anything in terms of a lucrative career.

For the past little while my biggest interest has been in playing death metal on guitar... absolutely nothing I can do with that. And I have zero interest in doing anything else musically outside of extreme metal.

I feel as though I am just cursed. I read about aspies with special interests they can turn into good careers and feel as though I have been s**t on. And, anymore, there is nothing I can get into enough to even bother with. There is nothing for me here and I wish I could gather the courage sufficient to kill myself because I am quite literally sick of everything.

Sorry about my rant and complete lack of helpful suggestions/encouragement. I hope you at least know that you're not alone.