What love advice should a young aspie know

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I am young and I just wanna hear from you guys how to date and how to meet women

............I would take any advice anybody gives you on here with a giant deposit of sea salt

I love how "young Aspie" here means "young heterosexual male Aspie".

Never date anyone with more problems than yourself.

Abandon all hope and start playing the banjo so you have something to do when you're in the old folks home.

Be yourself. The worst thing you can do is pretend to be someone you're not.

Make eye contact.

Listen attentively.

Whoever you are interested in, you won't get a date with him or her unless you ask that person out!

Very astute advice.

I can say from experience it's also a losing battle to date someone with fewer problems than yourself.

my advice for guys:

love the other in the way they understand love

know your limitations before entering a relationship - let the other know as well

don't let past mistakes keep you from trying new things

making a non-AS female friend will help you be better around women

make even more male friends, and try to push yourself with the type of guys you bring into your life. Don't get comfortable and only make friends like yourself. We tend to be the average of all our friends and so enrich your experience with a wide cast of males

Know what it means to be emotionally immature and how to deal with it

Know that denial is not to be taken personally. She doesn't know YOU, she just sees some guy who she's not attracted to.

Practice being a high-value male not just around girls, but around everyone, from your family, to children, to the elderly to those you disagree with.

Arrange your life so that you meet a reasonable number of your preferred gender, of your preferred type (age, interests, etc.).

Get used to them as friends and as human beings.

Listen to them, take them seriously, find out what they want out of life and try to help them get it.

Meanwhile see if any of them can give you what you want from a partner.

Shamelessly tell them everything you genuinely like and admire about them. Show your liking for them in your behaviour towards them.

Keep everything light and positive at first.

Don't worry if they suddenly vanish from your life or seem disinterested. It's a test a lot of them run when they're really interested in you. The trick is to put your neck on the block a little, and to deal with it bravely.

Make polite advances towards the ones you like, asking them for dates etc., and learn to take rebuffs with good heart. Most people won't laugh at you for asking, even if the answer has to be no.....they'll feel flattered and they might come back to you as lovers some time in the future.

Resist the temptation to believe in your own unattractiveness. As long as you're reasonably healthy and semi-house-trained, you are sexually acceptable. Most people think they're hideous.

All the things women look at are things that shows SOCIALIZATION.
But that is exatly our problem!
It was a veeeeery long journey for me, almost an odyssey, because i had no guidance.
There are hundred of thing you have to learn, the first one is to SOCIALIZE.