follow up. I wrote her, she replied.

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I posted earlier about writing a girl I deeply cared about. She took to someone else and stopped responding to my emails. That was a year ago, then last week I saw her on the trails, but couldn't stop to chat,so I chose to write her, hoping to reestabish contact, andmybe this tme win her heart.

She replied, and I learned she is engaged. Probably to the tool she passed me over for. I'm trying to be happy for her, but I do despair, because her hapiness does not include me.

That is the narrative of my life. I try so hard, and it is never me. There is no one wh wants me. I get sick now when I see a beautiful girl, because I know I have not a chance with her. Christ even regular girls don't want me.

What the living f**k is so wrong wth wanting someone o love, who will love me? Is that so misguided?

I notice you're 27, and I must say, even though I'm a little younger than you(23 last week), it might just be because of the fact you're in your late 20s, and still haven't found a mate yet. Don't worry, my dad just 5 or 10 years ago(when he was 35 or 40, can't remember how long they've been together) got with his dream girl, and shes like 28 or 29 or something9they met at work, cuz she was in charge of short orders and he is the routing manager...she since moved on to another company)

Don't worry, everyone has SOMEONE out there, and for you, I honestly believe it wasn't her.

I am sorry for your emotional pain regarding this girl. That must have really hurt to find out she is engaged.

What is your distinction between beautiful girls and regular girls exactly? Do you agree with the idea that beauty is at least somewhat in the eye of the beholder?

I do not have enough experience to talk but I do think Bjork is right when she says "you'll be given love... you'll be taken care of... you'll be given love... you'll have to trust it. Maybe not from the sources you have poured yours... maybe not in the directions you are staring at.."

I think it is probably difficult (but not impossible) to find The Perfect person all in one body but multiple people are a good match for you in different ways and can make you happy in different ways and the sum total of these interactions may fulfill you?

Again I know this is not what you want to hear at this time but I think you WILL be happy in the not-so-distant future regarding love and romance and all that.

Love always happens unexpectedly and we just can't force it. I know very well how you feel, it's endless pain if you care and it's not returned.
Everyone on this planet has someone who cares about them, so I'm sure there's someone you just don't notice. We run behind people who doesn't want us, have you ever looked behind you if there's someone running behind you?
A beautiful girl is a nice thing but don't judge a book by it's cover. Humans can be nice and attracting on the outside but what's inside written - that is the only thing what counts. It's not appearance what attracts us. People are like music, it's their sound what attracts us and we have to find the person who love our music as well. Real and honest beauty is always to find in the inside, what people think and feel and how they treat you.
Love happens when we at least expect it, usually when we stop chasing it and it always happens intentionally.
I hope for you that you will find someone soon

None of us can fairly judge here no-one knows what kind of girls he is targeting and whether they are in his league or not.