Going to college for the first time

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Just wanted to get any suggestions about how to adjust to college life. I went to two years of Community College and now I will be enrolling to a four year University in the fall and living on Campus. The real worry for me is making new friends and doing so in a way that is the least threatening way possible.

What I mean by that is that I am not a huge partier. I find that the quality of interaction at these types of things is often pretty low and you really don't have meaningful conversation so you can get to know somebody. Am I right about this? I might just be trying to validate my insecurities about going to parties where people you don't know just show up and get drunk but I just don't really care for them. Are there better ways to really meet people and develop lasting friendships?

Honestly, my greatest fear is getting up there and being there for a month and not making any friends. My ability to make friends has gotten better in the last year. I have made two good friends that I do stuff with maybe 2-3 times a week so I think I will be able to do it. So if any of you have thoughts or suggestions that will put my mind at ease a little and ease this transition for me it would be much appreciated.

I understand what you are saying about parties. Usually its harder to find new friends from parties.

I would recommend trying out clubs and societies within the college campus. You should try and get along with students in your own course. Its important to remember that at the start college is very tough because its a totally different atmosphere to what people have grown up with. It could take a few weeks or months to adapt to it.

Perhaps you can find groups/clubs within your major, and making friends within your major can possibly be longer lasting..

I think going to parties to meet new friends is not a great way to make friends, too.....

im in college and im 17 it is tuff for me to concentrate i have truble spelling and reading so it is harder for me to learn but i am passin with B's and C's

MSU = Party School

U of M = School for stuck-up rich kids

CMU = A school that values learning