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How can you tell if a women is gay i got horrible gaydar
i can tell when there butch by i like straight looking girls
any help would be appreciated

You can't, gaydar is a myth.

Have you ever read Effingdykes? Krista (the author) writes a combination personal blog/gaydar tips. Femmes are stealth, even for people who consider themselves to have good gaydar. Gaydar isn't exactly a myth--I recall a study that showed people were able to pick out gay men just by looking at their faces. I basically just memorized rules other people tell me, although it results in many false positives. I am attracted to butches, bois, andros, GQs--typically MOC people mostly, so I never had to deal with learning to spot femmes.

Anyways, some things I've heard about spotting femmes :
+Fedoras and beanies (this one applies to all lesbians)
+Asymmetry (this is all lesbians again, think hair and clothes)
+Belts with the buckle off to one side
+Affiliation with a sports team (this one is iffy)
+Facial piercings (especially lip rings)
+Plugs and tunnels
+The "dyke nod" which is a greeting/acknowledgement that looks like tipping your head back/thrusting your chin up
+Checking you or another woman out

I only do the fedora and checking other women out (cannot stand beanies) - not as a gay statement, though. I like my symmetrical hair and unpunctured face. I'm actually bi and living with a man, but I've realised I'm more gay than straight.

I've always looked straight, even when I had short hair. I can spot stereotypical bi girls because the obvious ones are wearing pentagrams, purple stuff, being curvy, being a goth/rocker/pagan in general and also the facial piercings thing (none of which I do, apart from having a few somewhat gothy items of clothing).

Screw being a stereotype and screw screwing a stereotype. It's annoying enough when straights let their sexuality dictate what they do outside the bedroom.

EDIT: Another one would be the nail length: practicing lesbians do not have long nails. Hmm...