Emotional intelligence new hiring criteria for jobs?
I just saw this article online. Since I'm looking for a new job myself, it's gotten me a bit worried. Is there a way to "learn" emotional intelligence?
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`Emotional intelligence' a new hiring criteria
By Erica Noonan, Globe Staff | September 10, 2006
In this job market, it's not just who you know, or even what skills you've mastered. It's how well you understand other people that will get you ahead.
This is the age of emotional intelligence, often called EQ, and today's hiring managers want proof you've got it.
Do you have the maturity and independence to follow a project to completion? Can you motivate and lead a group of your peers? Do you genuinely care about the company's values and goals? Are you the type to be sensitive to the needs of a troubled co-worker? Can you control your anger when a supervisor is rude to you?
``Employers are looking for better-rounded workers these days," said Marilyn Edelson, founder and chief executive of Newton-based OnTrack Coaching and Consulting Inc. ``If you're just a grabber, looking for what you can get for yourself, you might be seen as a bright spark in the beginning, but it won't carry you through a career ."
EQ comprises a collection of so-called ``soft" skills, including self-awareness, an understanding of how your mood and behavior affect others; impulse control, including how you manage stress on the job; initiative, whether you can be counted on to report to work on time, manage your own time, and meet expectations; and the ability to motivate and lead others.
But empathy -- the ability to understand and acknowledge another person's point of view -- is ``the big enchilada in my mind when it comes to emotional intelligence," said Nancy Mobley, CEO of Dedham-based workplace consultants Insight Performance.
``If you are an employer looking to hire for a leadership position, you want to know whether they can put themselves in someone else's shoes," she said.
For companies, emotional intelligence is not just some trendy HR phrase. It's costly for employers to replace managers who fail to connect emotionally, and to regain the trust of burned subordinates. Moreover, the ever-increasing business emphasis on technology and globalization means more communication, cooperation, and teamwork is necessary to get projects completed on time and on budget. Companies have to hire good communicators if they want to survive.
As for employees, older workers tend to have more emotional intelligence, usually through hard-won experience. Younger workers, however, can close the experience gap by showing genuine excitement about the job, interest in the company, and a willingness to learn and grow.
Job applicants, especially those for executive-level positions, should be prepared to be quizzed on their EQ. Typical subjects include behavioral-type questions about how they coped with a past workplace challenge, managed a personality conflict, or helped a team project succeed.
Even someone fresh out of college should be ready to demonstrate these skills, perhaps describing how they managed a fraternity fund-raiser, met school newspaper deadlines, or trained a group of summer lifeguards, Mobley said.
The increasing importance placed on EQ skills isn't about a kinder, gentler workplace -- actually, it's quite the contrary.
Research collected by the Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence in Organizations shows that salespeople, military recruiters, and executives with better scores on written EQ tests outperformed and out-earned colleagues who scored lower.
A 1997 study conducted by the Hay Research and Innovation Group, an EQ consulting and testing company, showed computer sales reps hired especially for their emotional skills were 90 percent more likely to complete training than those hired on other criteria. Another Hay study from the same year showed insurance agents who scored weakly on empathy, self-confidence, and initiative sold policy premiums worth 50 percent less than agents who scored better in those areas.
Some EQ tips from the experts:
Pay attention to key EQ buzzwords in the job description, (``innovative," ``flexible," and ``friendly," for example) and incorporate them into your cover letter and resume.
Know yourself, and learn everything possible about the values and culture of the company you hope to work for. ``It's not emotionally intelligent to force yourself into an office culture where you won't be happy," said Edelson.
Demonstrate reliability and trustworthiness. One of Edelson's favorite stories is about a 23-year-old woman who wrecked her car en route to an interview for a sales position at a pharmaceutical company. Instead of being a no-show, she called and explained the situation, and got a ride to the interview. ``She was determined to show them she was reliable and would show up when she said she would," said Edelson. (Impressed, the firm hired her on the spot.)
Never fib about anything. Don't say you're fluent in Spanish when you haven't spoken a word since high school. Assess your skills realistically, but follow with a pledge to improve quickly if the job requires proficiency.
Send a thank you note to show off your good manners, another component of EQ. Handwritten, via snail mail.
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The Emotional Intelligence thing is all about if you can show empathy and recognise some things. People can learn how to recognise what "Angry" is and what "Worried" is (My Psych and me are working on this one!). If you want to test yourself, Tickle.com has a Emotional IQ test with pictures and multiple choice answers. I found it pretty hard, but it's not bad. You can always learn how to recognise the emotions if you find a friend who's willing to model it, or if you know a good Dramatic Arts teacher
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This is openly crucial in human relations jobs where dealing with the public is your job (HRSDC Centers sometimes offer progams to help people train for this, one example is SmartServe, which teaches how to recognise a drunk man, and The Colours Workshop, which teaches personality types and such...)
This sort of thing just reminds me that I will only work for myself once I leave my current job. At least I cannot see myself ever working for a big business again, which is where this sort of thing is going to be most prevalent.
I found a multiple choice test and tried it...
http://quiz.ivillage.co.uk/uk_work/tests/eqtest.htm
It said this about me...
People that typically score in this range sometimes have trouble recognising and understanding their feelings. They are not always able to express their feelings in the most appropriate manner. They often have doubts and concerns about who they really are. They do not have much confidence in themselves and in their abilities. In most circumstances, they have a difficult time showing love, empathy and compassion for other people. In general, they are not comfortable with intimacy.
They also have trouble communicating with other people. They struggle with getting in tune with themselves and those around them. They may sometimes say the wrong thing at the wrong moment. They sometimes find it hard to show their anger or deal with anger directed at them. At times they are unable to stand up for themselves when hurt or they are handle confrontation inappropriately. They may have trouble admitting when they are wrong; and when they do make mistakes, they are often uncomfortable apologising to those they hurt.
People with below average EQ may also have low levels of self-worth. They do not like challenges or commitment and are afraid of change. They have a difficult time staying motivated and focused when they have set unattainable goals for themselves. They are fairly pessimistic about themselves and their future.
However, one great thing about emotional intelligence is that it's fluid! A person can increase their EQ at any point of their life! People with below average EQ can start by learning how to identify their emotions and take responsibility for them. There are many resources to help. People with low EQ can read books about EQ and social skills, find out about anger management courses and communication skills courses, join a support group or see a counsellor. They can keep a diary of their emotions, and ask their friends to help them recognise the things about themselves that need correcting. If these things are done there is no doubt that they can increase their emotional intelligence and live a healthy, happy life.
EDIT...
Something I wanted to add in here is how it seems that you have poor "emotional intelligence" if you don't like to be walked on, don't like for others to be walked on, and just generally won't let a**holes have their way with you (at least according to the 'test' I referenced above). If that is what this "emotional intelligence" nonsense is all about, then I am sure it was created by people who stand to benefit from reinforcing those attributes and discouraging independent thinkers.
My dad is retiring from the family business (which, it has been made clear, is not for me to partake in). My mom asked me if I knew of any engineers looking for a job. " A degree and a couple of years experience. But personality is really more important to us than ability. Like our secretary for instance. She's a really terrible secretary, but everyone likes her and she's very friendly." I'm sorry, this doesn't compute. Of course, that's probably part of why I'm not a part of the company.
On another note (B-flat I think
) I saw a news article today that said that the labor force is shrinking faster than expected. Boomers are retiring at an increasing rate and fewer people age 20-40 are available to fill the jobs. It said employers are struggling to find ways to attract new people. I think they could start with...LIGHTEN UP ON THE EMOTIONAL BS! If a guy shows up on time and can do the job, hire him and let it go.
Why? or How?
I'm not sure why, although I suspect its related to my AS. My parents don't know of my diagnosis(they tend to be rather insensitive to those with any kind of disability). Although my skills are well suited to replace my dad, as mom said personality is more important than ability.
As to how, its been little things all along. I used to work there summers, much longer than my brother, however when they needed a purchasing person he was tapped even though I had actually done the job previously. Then there was the time we had to have a big family meeting where my dad told my brother and I that we should look for other jobs because the business was failing and he was going to sell it. That was 14yrs ago. I promptly got another job, my brother continued to work there. My dad's partner was a bit of a drunken a**, so my brother eventually got tired of that and started his own computer consulting business...want to guess who his primary customer was (I had previously tried to start the same business a couple of years before. At that time the company wouldn't use anyone but Sears business systems). When the partner died a few months ago, my dad paid for my brother to commute from 500miles every week to help out with the company (I live in town). Recently, my folks announced that they were going to set it up so that when they died one of us wouuld get the company and the other would get the property its on. The recipient of the property would then sell it back to the recipient of the company. Yeah, one of us is "getting the business" all right.
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I found a multiple choice test and tried it...
http://quiz.ivillage.co.uk/uk_work/tests/eqtest.htm
It said this about me...
People that typically score in this range sometimes have trouble recognising and understanding their feelings. They are not always able to express their feelings in the most appropriate manner. They often have doubts and concerns about who they really are. They do not have much confidence in themselves and in their abilities. In most circumstances, they have a difficult time showing love, empathy and compassion for other people. In general, they are not comfortable with intimacy.
They also have trouble communicating with other people. They struggle with getting in tune with themselves and those around them. They may sometimes say the wrong thing at the wrong moment. They sometimes find it hard to show their anger or deal with anger directed at them. At times they are unable to stand up for themselves when hurt or they are handle confrontation inappropriately. They may have trouble admitting when they are wrong; and when they do make mistakes, they are often uncomfortable apologising to those they hurt.
People with below average EQ may also have low levels of self-worth. They do not like challenges or commitment and are afraid of change. They have a difficult time staying motivated and focused when they have set unattainable goals for themselves. They are fairly pessimistic about themselves and their future.
However, one great thing about emotional intelligence is that it's fluid! A person can increase their EQ at any point of their life! People with below average EQ can start by learning how to identify their emotions and take responsibility for them. There are many resources to help. People with low EQ can read books about EQ and social skills, find out about anger management courses and communication skills courses, join a support group or see a counsellor. They can keep a diary of their emotions, and ask their friends to help them recognise the things about themselves that need correcting. If these things are done there is no doubt that they can increase their emotional intelligence and live a healthy, happy life.
EDIT...
Something I wanted to add in here is how it seems that you have poor "emotional intelligence" if you don't like to be walked on, don't like for others to be walked on, and just generally won't let a**holes have their way with you (at least according to the 'test' I referenced above). If that is what this "emotional intelligence" nonsense is all about, then I am sure it was created by people who stand to benefit from reinforcing those attributes and discouraging independent thinkers.
I got the same. It said 45% of my answers were correct.
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Your mom == Willy Loman ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_a_Salesman ).
Don't your parents know that intelligent Aspies make excellent engineers? Do you have a college degree in engineering? If you do not, all you need is some apprentice work to be an engineering technician. Check out bls.gov. I think your parents should have at least hired you for something like that. In fact, judging from your profile, you have successfully found work as a medical electronics technician.
But your family's response to your condition seems rather puzzling and insensitive. Maybe they are the ones who need to learn better people skills. But I digress...
I don't suppose you are living in either the Shoals (with its small but relatively thriving medical technology industry) or the Madison area (with its plethora of engineering firms)? I frequent both these regions on a weekly basis through work and school and it is good to know there are other Aspies in these areas.
Sorry to have hijacked. I've started another thread here:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/asperger.htm ... ic&t=18813
Me too. I think this EQ business is all crapola anyway. In the future, employers will have to get over being so fussy as there won't be enough young people to fill in the gaps left by all the departed baby boomers. Unless they get robots....actually, it sounds as if they want robots already - human robots.
We also need to ask ourselves is it worth working for bosses who are so ignorant and prejudiced that they only see one kind of personality as worthwhile. There is all this garbage about being "team players". A good team is not comprised of people who all think and act the same (unless it is a synchronised swimming team maybe).
A good team needs different kinds of people to work well eg. the quiet achiever, the catalyst, the ideas person, and so on. I agree that some level of personal skills are important but these would be things such as courtesy and consideration and not allowing yourself to be walked all over or tolerating the same treatment to co-workers.
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There seems to be plenty of young people in India, which is where a lot of jobs seem to be going. I guess you're talking about jobs that require someone to actually be physically present, though, but they are intending to offshore so many other jobs that competition will increase for the leftover jobs, I suppose.
