Homesick and regretful

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I moved interstate in January 2011 to take a job as a teacher at a special school. It was my dream job.
I have an 11 yr old Aspie daughter, and I am a diagnosed Aspie as well.

It's been a year and all of a sudden I am extremely homesick. I can't stop crying and regretting my decision.

My daughter doesn't have any funding in this state, whereas she had funding at home. The school system here doesn't care, and they won't even assess her for funding because she's too high functioning and has no extreme behaviours because she's medicated. But she is miserable.

We've made no friends. We don't know anyone in the area. We are completely isolated.

I miss my old house so much. We moved a lot when I was young because my Dad was in the Army. I moved into my old house in 2001. I stayed there for 9 years and 11 months. It was the longest I'd lived anywhere and I loved it. It was my first 'home'; not just a house I lived in.

We were robbed at the first house we moved into in October 2011, and moved into a new, more secure house at the end of October because I was too scared to stay in the other house.

I feel really lost and scared and insecure. I've never felt lonely before, but now I believe I'm experiencing this emotion and it is completely unfamiliar to me. I've felt alone, but never lonely. I welcome being alone...but this is so different.

I love my job, but I don't know why the rest of my life has to fall apart for me to get it.

In QLD we were told that the education department would take into consideration our location preferences in extenuating circumstances. They gave us 20 words to explain our situation and why we should stay there. I never got work and was forced to move interstate if I wanted to start my career.

I feel lied to and betrayed, but I don't know by who. I worked so hard for 10 years; I worked through being a teen Mum, I got mentally healthier, I obtained three degrees...I just thought at some stage someone would go my way and it wouldn't have to be so hard.

I don't know how to stop feeling so homesick, and I am regretting working so hard to get this job when I feel like I've had to sacrifice both my daughters future, stability and happiness, and mine.

Sorry to offload...I just needed to write it all down and feel like someone out there 'hears' me. Even if they don't.

Hello

I am sorry to read of your distress, and feelings of isolation and vulnerability.

Did you receive any counselling after your burglary? The feelings you describe are strongly associated with that experience.

The decisions you made in the past were likely made for the right reasons, and it is understandable to question them when it seems that those decisions are the cause of current problems, but I think that events outside of your control are the greater cause for your current emotional state.

I think this 'How' link is good, http://www.ehow.com/how_12017694_recove ... rglary.htm

I understand your need to feel positive about the future of yourself and your family, you have clearly been making much effort. I have no familial responsibility myself, so my post probably reflects that.

Sorry if that is not helpful, I wonder if you might get some practical advice if you posted in the Parents' Discussion forum.

I hope things get better for you soon. You are welcome to Private Message me if you ever want someone to talk to. I'm needing online friends.