I keep panicking about the time going by so fast

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I can't keep up with the time, it's creeping away so fast. It's 2012 already, where has the last 10 years gone? And new years eve crept up so quick, and now we're half way through May all of a sudden. I don't think the weather can keep up with the time either, because we've still got February-March weather, and it doesn't seem to be improving at all, even on the horizon.

But not only that - I can't cope with getting older, and everyone around me getting older. It's happening too soon, and there is no way to stop it. I can't cope with my cousins getting older, most of them are in their teens or in adulthood now, and I'm growing further and further apart from them as time goes on, and I still keep remembering them when they were little kids, and now they're completely different to how they were back then. I remember when my 15-year-old cousin was born and I held him on my lap, and I've got videos of him as a little boy and he used to be cheerful and sociable then. Now he's turned into a surly, unsociable teenager, a completely different person to what I've always known him as. (Well, he's sociable with his mates but not so much with his family). And soon they're probably all going to be settling down and getting married before me, (even though most are younger than me), and it just doesn't feel right. I just miss us all being children, where we just all stuck together and got on and didn't keep thinking about relationships and careers. I just can't cope with my family getting older and things changing. I want us all to be close forever and stay as we are, and I can't even enjoy it now while my cousins are all still single and living at home, because it is rapidly changing, and you just don't know what's next.

Why am I feeling like this?

If you think its bad now, I could have sworn that New Years was a couple weeks ago. 2006 seems like it was last fall. As you get older, time goes faster. When you're 8, each year is an entire 1/8th of your life. When you're 22, a year is only 1/22nd of your life. Time does fly, my 20s are completely gone and I'm only now beginning to understand how much my life is limited by AS, which I have only recently come to (strongly) suspect that I have. You still have the prime years yet- young people are more understanding. People my age don't even bother, if you seem to be the least bit 'difficult' to be around, they will move on without a thought.

I wish you best of luck. Don't do what I did, and just hide for an entire decade. Then you'll look up, be 30, your body will be just starting to sag, and you'll realize that its now impossible to make friends. I'm still on a waiting list to see a therapist. I hope that something can be salvaged from my life. Otherwise its going to be a long few decades until my current suicide method (a sedentary lifestyle and shit-ful diet) finally do me in.

I think it's fairly normal to feel this. I sometimes feel a panic attack over thoughts of time running away and then trying to claw back at it to stop things gettings way from me. Its difficult times. I find it builds up to a point where i kind of just pop and give up trying to hold it all back. It kind of resets me and then i wake up one day and just start getting on with things and maybe trying something new again.

I'm currently in a 'try something new' mood after recently feeling like I wasted the last 4 years of my life trying to wait on someone. I'm trying Tai Chi next week! If I can't do anything about the way my mind works then I can at least try and control the body!

Perhaps try something to shake things up and maybe life will give you something to look forward to? It just doesnt help to look back and constantly regret, I do it constantly I am still trying to follow my own advice!

I don't know why you feel like this but I know how you feel.

I've always had a problem with change and transitions. Time creeps up on you and suddenly there is a tangible event (such as a wedding) and suddenly you realise that everything is different and things will never be the same again. I remember being very upset about the idea of having to grow up. If you are a girl there is obviously a defining event that marks the end of being a child and reminds you that you are changing into a woman and there is nothing you can do to stop it.

When my younger sister went to University I felt awful. I felt like our childhood was lost forever. When I think about my parents getting older it terrifies me. I miss the first apartment we lived in when I was a child. When people move away, buy houses and get married it unsettles me even though I am happy for them. It isn't the feeling of being left behind as such, after all I've also moved away and have a relationship - it's just a feeling that everything has shifted slightly and that if I don't like it I can never go back. It is a horrible feeling.