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what age gap is too big for dating?

I think it's less age and more of where two people are at in their lives. Someone who is going through college probably isn't a good match for someone already with a degree who has a career and is more settled down. Maturity level is part of it too. I don't think there's a magic number but two people should be progressing to the same points in their lives roughly at the same time, otherwise things probably won't work out very well.

My age limit is 17-35, I don't have any problem dating someone older if there is a good physical and mental connection.

While I feel alot of what civrev says is true I think the age component does come into play. That criteria would not apply especially to Aspie men. I feel age becomes less important the older you get. It would be no big deal if a 60YO man dated a 50YO woman but it would raise alot of eyebrows if a 20YO dated a 10YO.

Well I am 22, and I would only be with 20/21 (20 is stretching it), up to 26/27. So 1/2 down, and 4/5 up.

I don't think there is a magic number - it depends on what you feel comfortable with.
I'm remembering how one of the people who travelled to space privately is in his 60s and he got married to a woman in her 30s.
But it's a personal thing - I am not so worried about the age, but rather the relationship between us.

I've heard NTs use the guideline "half of your age plus 7" to figure out how young you should go. Since I'm 25, mine would be 19.5.

I tend to date pretty close to my age or higher. I don't like to deal with low maturity.

I don't think it's about the age gap as much as the age - for example a 5 year difference may be nothing, but there's a huge difference between a 16 year old dating a 21 year old and a 30 year old dating a 35 year old - it's all about life experiences and where they are in their lives. Then there are rare situations where extreme age gaps at any age work out really well.

I'm 29 - the youngest I'd date is 29 and the oldest is 45 (my current boyfriend is 45 and soon to be 46, that's for sure the oldest I'd go) - BUT my last boyfriend was 24, I'd possibly go younger for sex but not for a relationship, older works better for me for relationships.

I go with most here, age difference is not as important as maturity level, although there is an undeniable correlation between age and maturity Two people's maturity level should be roughly the same, although on that one I've got a logical problem:

In average, women tend to date older men. If the maturity level of the couple is the same, then it is concluded that women mature faster than men. If women mature the same speed as men, it is concluded that men's maturity level can, and maybe should, be higher than the women's. I'm going for the second because of personal experience and other factors I've got in mind.

Also, there is social stigma attached to age differences, like women dating younger men or men dating really young women. If it's a good relationship that should not matter, because relationships are between only two people, but it should still be taken into account.

Around five years for me. Though
Some people live more in 20 years than others do in 80. It's not the time that matters it's the person.
-Tenth Doctor

I wouldn't date anybody younger than myself, nor would I date anybody 5 years < than me.

As much as forty years. But Even that vague rule would go out the window If we were compatible.

My range is currently 21-34 (I'm 29) but rarely have I seen anyone under 25 show even a basic level of maturity except for a 21 year old. As I've previously mentioned, in my experience women younger than 30 aren't interested in serious relationships and those over 30 are repulsed by my lack of experience and relative emotional immaturity. I did try to express an interest in a 21 year old (since she is more mature than I despite the age gap) but she seems very uncomfortable with the idea. Oh well, she'll figure out soon enough she needs to find someone much older due to her maturity level.

Me personally if there was nobody judging me in the world, which is quite impossible... Would date someone quite young or perhaps up to few years older than me. The younger she gets, the more I will expose her to my values and might not be in sync with hers. I guess I might say I will ruin it for her. This seems to be a common problem. It could just be me with bad experiences too