Been needing to get over clinginess over dating an NT

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Really this matter that I've had in general with dating NT guys has lasted a while, mainly in the vein of just clinging to a guy just by me being the one to call him, and doing it a hell of a lot more than I should, which I'm sure eventually ticks NTs off a lot and makes it sooner of a chance the guy will just leave me completely, even if we're not dating and we're just mere friends. I don't want to start losing guy friends I've only met for the first time, even though sometimes I wonder if the reason they don't even call me and keep the calling thing so back-and-forth is because they're just not interested at all. So generally, when you meet a guy you want to date, especially a guy friend, NT or not being the girl in the relationship, are there necessarily carved-in-stone rules for giving the guy their space in order for you to keep the guy, and figuring out if they're even interested based on how often they call you...or are there really that many rules?
I'd appreciate for someone, if not many, to help me figure that out.

It totally depends on the person, I don't think there are any specific rules. But certainly you might want to work on toning it down a bit if you're really clingy. Let them message you once in a while, just so that you know they're interested in talking to you.

Clinglyness is not predisposed to Aspie men or women. NT's can do this as well. I have dealt with my share of clingy people. I think the problem with being clingy is that the person doing it has not really found any true salvation within themselves. They feel this desire to find it in someone else.