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So, I was thinking of my friendship with this girl that I've hung out with a couple of times, and am trying to think of ways that I can still communicate and show interest, without being annoying, desperate or whatever.

As I've stated in other threads, she doesn't call me, but I end up calling her. We've hung out together (alone, a few times) but I guess I don't like being the initiator all of the time. I know that aspie girls don't always like to initiate things, so I can understand that, but I just don't want to come across as desperate or annoying to her....

She does live a ways away (although will be moving near where I am in a few months), so distance does have an impact on being able to do things--as in so far, it is usually a few weeks in between seeing eachother, but she doesn't text or do email or FB, so calling is the only way to get in contact with her...

Suggestions?

Ask her if she likes hanging out with you. Tell her to be honest and direct with you, and not just try to spare your feelings. That's what I'd do.

I would probably approach it like Yuugiri suggests. With an NT person, I would say the lack of communication back is a fairly strong indicator of them not being interested. But this girl is AS also ? If so, I am not sure what it means and asking is the only way to find out. Something along the lines of asking whether she would like to continue getting together and if she likes that you call. With Aspies you generally have to be very specific and hopefully she will understand, and give a clear answer.