Keeping the condition a secret

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Howdy. I don't post often, but I'm at an impasse at the moment.

I was diagnosed when I was around 11. I don't know if that's particularly relevant, but I never had the support throughout my early childhood that other children had; I never had the opportunity to nip in the bud some idiosyncratic behaviours which still plague me, nor did I come to casually embrace the condition to the extent others have. I'm going to start working soon at a very nice employer; at least I hope so. I think I'm able to put on the façade of normalcy and the like -- but the dreaded interview and the application process could easily expose my abnormalities.

I'm high-functioning, and I'm crippled by pride and a desire not to get special treatment (along with that persistent fear of discrimination). Debate the merits of this, but I need to prevent my condition from coming out with this employer or potential colleagues. I'm going to be working in a very competitive field which requires a large amount of interpersonal interaction along with a great deal of technical expertise.

So how do I keep the Aspergers under wraps? And are there any behaviours I can adopt to keep them from coming onto me? Alongside this, does anyone have any experience of not letting their condition out to employers?

Thanks.

Personally, I just stay quiet. The less you talk the less you're noticed. People don't ask questions if they don't know you're there. The only people that know about my AS are a couple of my superiors. Everyone else just thinks I'm quiet. Plus, silence prevents the inevitable foot-in-mouth that I'm famous for.

Personally, I say this.

Like yourself for who you are.

Keep quiet about your AS.

Know what your good traits are, or find them out.

I just let myself get enthusiastic, and if I hurt someone unintentionally, I apologize when it's brought to my attention.

I also did 'soft disclosures' too. Like 'I'm the sort of person who...' needs to focus. Or who excels at this while having difficulties with that.

Also, be sure to not deprive yourself of sleep.