The worst for me

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The worst thing for me being an ASpie is the feeling on lonliness. I know I am not alone but feel that I am not really connected to anyone. I understand the concept of emotion, I just don't feel it unless it is something intense.

I wish you didn't feel so alone. TV, movies, and other mass media tend to represent a world where people are really connected and are constantly interacting in close ways, but I think the truth is that most people feel alone, and often lonely, and that genuinely close relationships are rare--not only in the Asperger community, but in the neurotypical world at large. I believe those of us with Asperger characteristics are more keenly aware of what most people block out of their minds.

I know that isn't a cheerful response, but sometimes it can help just to consider that loneliness is pretty well universal--not just something that afflicts me. Now and then I am able to reach out and help somebody, and that feels better than almost anything. Loneliness disappears for a while.... I just don't have the social skill to do this really often, or to know how to facilitate doing it. I'm grateful when it happens, though.

I know what you mean. Sometimes I feel like the world is moving so quickly around me that I can't focus. I wonder if people know how much we aspies suffer sometimes.

I think that's pretty common among people with AS, if these forums are any indication. All I can say is, hang in there, things will improve. You can't get rid of your AS, but that doesn't mean you are always going to feel bad. If you search long enough, you'll eventually meet people who although they may not completely understand you, accept you for who you are, and appreciate you as a friend. That's the best I can come up with now, hope that helps a little