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23 Oct 2013, 7:39 pm

Stare unfocused into their eyes works every time.

(correction made)



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23 Oct 2013, 8:30 pm

I tried that once. It hurt my eyes.



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23 Oct 2013, 9:34 pm

RichardJ wrote:
Stare cross-eyed into their eyes works every time.

I believe that would look strange to them. I think I would notice if someone's focus was looking at me cross-eyed.



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24 Oct 2013, 10:34 am

A less noticeable approach is to center your focus between their eyes and then let your vision unfocus as they talk. That way you aren't picking up too much visual information while trying to listen, you can focus on the details better, and the person you're talking to thinks your eye contact is outstanding! True witness. ^_^


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24 Oct 2013, 2:46 pm

ReiAime wrote:
A less noticeable approach is to center your focus between their eyes and then let your vision unfocus as they talk. That way you aren't picking up too much visual information while trying to listen, you can focus on the details better, and the person you're talking to thinks your eye contact is outstanding! True witness. ^_^



I actually meant unfocused, I will fix the post.



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24 Oct 2013, 2:46 pm

ReiAime wrote:
A less noticeable approach is to center your focus between their eyes and then let your vision unfocus as they talk. That way you aren't picking up too much visual information while trying to listen, you can focus on the details better, and the person you're talking to thinks your eye contact is outstanding! True witness. ^_^



I actually meant unfocused, I will fix the post.



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24 Oct 2013, 5:06 pm

I look at mouths. People can't really tell the difference. 8O


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25 Oct 2013, 12:30 am

I have very dark brown eyes so I can get away with lip watching. I have been working on eye contact for a while now. Its progressing slowly.


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27 Oct 2013, 3:47 pm

LAlien wrote:
I look at mouths. People can't really tell the difference. 8O


I look at mouths too, and the counselor noticed, but the psychologist didn't. Everybody else I think just doesn't really care.


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07 Nov 2013, 5:22 pm

RichardJ wrote:
ReiAime wrote:
A less noticeable approach is to center your focus between their eyes and then let your vision unfocus as they talk. That way you aren't picking up too much visual information while trying to listen, you can focus on the details better, and the person you're talking to thinks your eye contact is outstanding! True witness. ^_^



I actually meant unfocused, I will fix the post.


It's kind of ironic that someone saying they would fix the post accidentally duplicated their post. :roll:


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07 Nov 2013, 5:23 pm

Shaded wrote:
I have very dark brown eyes so I can get away with lip watching. I have been working on eye contact for a while now. Its progressing slowly.


What does having dark brown eyes have to do with lip reading?


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