Told you say weird things....

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So i was just speaking to someone on the telephone and apparently I am told I say weird things.

Does anyone else experience the same?

Why does everyone think I am so odd...its weird really.

I don't do drugs, or break the law, I love my paleo stuff, I enjoy riding buses, I adore my needle crafts, I sometimes get depressed and wonder if life is worth living but don't a lot of people...why am I so weird exactly?

I don't get it. I actually don't get it.

Even amongst the ASD community I considered odd I think. Why please?

Apparently they seemed to think I was not listening...i was listening.

Why do people think I am not listening.

Why does everyone think I am so strange, or not paying attention or that I am wierd please?

Is it because I have alternative view points?

I do not break the law, I do not harm myself other than occasionally hitting myself on the head when I am very frustrated and am alone but not so much that I have ever caused myself harm, I do not do drugs, I do drink once in a while but then I am lonely becuase the world keeps rejecting me because I an weird or I reject it because it is weird to me (some poeple are into some very harmful things and they seem to want to hurt each other), I do not commit harm on others, I have never been in a psychiatric hospital or similar (considered to be too reasonable by drs when I see them...to aware, rational).

I merely do not know what to say to people and when I do speak I am considered odd.

Why so please? I am a very sensible person actually..more sensible than most yet I am considered weird?

This is very very strange.

And what do people mean I say odd things..odd in what way please?

Yes, I've been told that all my life.

Apparently I'm very good at focusing on something the other person has said that they feel is not the primary point of their monologue, but seems critical to me. So when I respond to what they have told me, I respond to a part of it that was not what they were seeking feedback about. Thus, to them, my remarks seem non sequitur, as though I was not really paying attention, when in fact I heard every word, we just seem to have different priorities.

Of course, this is one of those Aspergian traits, along with taking things too literally, that I learned as a child would often get a laugh, so sometimes my non sequiturs are intentional, just because I relish the puzzled look on people's faces when what I've said seems to come from so far out in left field, they are momentarily flummoxed by it and have no idea how to respond. A "Welcome to my world, beyotch" moment. It amuses me.

I am not told that. People just ignore me or act all offended. I think it is because they don't understand my communication. They miss interpret what I am saying and take it out of context. Just like I can't understand the hidden meaning behind how normal people talk, they can't understand what I am saying because they interpret it differently. I can't really explain it except that words don't really mean what they mean. There is always a hidden message attached to what we say, a message that people interpret. A lot of times, people don't even listen to the words. They just listen to the hidden message and react emotionally to that. The only thing I know to do is to follow the script. I learn the script for each situation that I am in, follow it, and keep my true personality to myself. I don't even let people who are close to me see who I really am because they always think I'm weird or crazy. I'm tired of being ridiculed, shunned, or yelled at because of miscommunications or people not liking my differentness. As long as I follow the script, people like me and I don't have any problems. Then I can go and be by myself where I am really comfortable.

Huh? I was mentally playing a Billy Joel organ solo from Attila.

I get the most criticism from members of my family who tell me I speak in riddles - as if I had the time or interest to spiel "As I was going to St. Ives.." to them. Some of my non-sequitirs become entertaining to other rock-and-roll people and take on a life of their own or I can end up over-jargoning a client to death. The thing to remember is that "Normal" is a setting on a washing machine and a cruise option on KITT, everyone has a vulnerability if you hang around them long enough.

Perhaps a sample dialogue between OP and those who make the comments? What could be said that would be construed as weird?

People don't even say that to me although it's very obvious that they do think I'm weird. They just ignore me or treat me in a hostile manner. So I think if someone openly says that you are weird, maybe it's not that bad, although if it's said unkindly, it might hurt. People might use the word "weird" etc when they don't know you well enough and have no idea how they can communicate with you. So it's most likely their ignorance to use such a word.

I am told I say weird things all the time. Now I don't even think about it anymore and accept the fact that I say weird things. I think it is because I am not good at explaining stuff.

Or maybe, it's just their unwillingness to listen and try to understand.

Often it isn't so much the content of the statements you are making as it is the form. As people on the spectrum tend to have atypical cognitive profile, our sentence structure can vary away from the norm quite a bit. You can work on this if it is causing you problems in everyday life, but it's tough to be vigilant about keeping relatively typical sentence structure all the time. Especially in a social situation.

You would have to give examples of what others call 'odd things on the phone' for us to respond.

Odd in what way?

Is it the content of what you're saying? Is it the syntax? Is it the longwindedness? Or what?

Maybe you say nonsequitars, and dont respond to what the person is talking about. Just guessing.

Being told that you say weird things can be a result of two things. The first is that you say weird things or say normal things in a weird way. The second possibility is that the person you are talking to has a narrow range of what they are capable of processing such that anything outside of this range is considered "weird".

I see the world as being increasingly collectivized. Part of this process includes schools imprinting upon children a fear of ridicule such that looking "weird" or saying "weird" things tags one as being guilty of "non-compliance". We have all seen a celebrity disappear overnight as a result of one misspoken word.

ASD people are less likely to be conformed and thus more likely to say things that others would consider inappropriate, weird, or even alarming.

In a world of increasing conformity that also places a higher value of feeling good over truth, you can find many people uncomfortable around someone who is trying to find truth or talk about things that do not placate, sooth, flatter, or boost self-esteem.

It is incumbent upon the ASD person to judge the person to whom he is talking to find out if this person can tolerate more than a narrow range of conversation. You might come up with some test statements to see what reaction you get,

"I for one do not mind paying taxes, because I know the money is so well spent" This is obvious sarcasm and most people would chuckle at the statement. If the person you are evaluating does not smile or see the the humor, you may have to switch tactics, "That's a very nice shirt you have on".

Quite often I get told I say weird things by friends and family alike. The thing is, what they consider "weird" is normally just me being a sarcastic smartass. Hypothetically my mother would be like "how do you use this computer?" to which I'll respond "hitting the on/off switch tends to work."

It's actually written in my psychiatric medical records that I "have an unusual way of using language."

I guess that's a polite way of saying that I talk funny.

I don't know, they don't always say. Sometimes they just say I am weird or odd instead. Eccentric is another word I hear. I do have unusual ways of going about things as I am not mainstream by any means and I may well have odd opinions, Ie:

I tend to find most mainstream methods counterproductive...such as counteracting feelings of worthlessness in those who suffer from such with positive affirmations. I don't believe there is such a thing as a worthless life for reasons that are too complicated and long to explain here. By teaching people that they need positive affirmations in order to not feel worthless, they are basically saying that there is such a thing as worthlessness in the first place. It would be much more effective and beneficial if they abolished the concept of worthlessness in the first place..this would save much time as people would not have to spend hours convincing themselves they are not something that does not exist!

Hours they can do more exciting things with...like using said brian power to understand the mysteries of the Universe instead.

We could just teach people there is no such thing as a worthless life (there is just life) in the first place. That would save society and therapists time.

I personally can't see the point in stripping myself down and repeatedly building oneself back up again so I just don't bother with either. I am not always ego centered. Am more interested in learning about the world around me than fluffing my own ego up and preening my feathers. Want to learn, understand and then pass that on.

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It could be that I say things weirdly. The other day I prematurely tried to board a bus and apologised to the driver on realising that people were still getting off said bus by saying "I am sorry, I did not realise that people were disembarking"

I also ask people if they would like a beverage instead of a drink.

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I am very open about things that others are not sometimes I am told. I have also had complaints about being too verbose, too detailed, too talkative, too quiet. People thinking I am weird because I have a favourite coat and always wear it etc.

I like unusual ways of using language.

I'm not told I say weird things so much as I'm told I'm just weird in general, whether that's due to my behaviour or the things I say, it's hard to know. If I'm uncertain about a topic, I keep quiet, If I know something about it though, I have a tendency to just insert my statement into the pauses in other peoples' conversations if I'm in a group because I don't know how else to put myself forward, I imagine that comes across as odd on occasion.