WTF!? Regular or Autistic Weirdo?

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Last edited by leafplant on 18 Jan 2014, 7:46 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I don't think it was weird that he suggested salmon. To me it sounds he was just being nice. You could have said "No, I don't feel like eating salmon now' or something.

But yeah, I totally feel you, I always hate when strangers start talking to me. And I also startle when people do talk to me randomly. Usually those people are old people (40+), like that one. They just want to start a conversation, or just offer some help I guess. Maybe it's a part of the culture here, because a lot of people talk randomly in the supermarket. Usually I just put my earphones in my ear, and listen to music. This way people know that they shouldn't talk to you. If they do, you won't hear them. And if you do, just ignore them.

This dude might be an aspie. Who knows? It's hard to tell from a brief conversation but it sounds to me like he's straight up crazy. He could also have been having a bad day and was looking for someone to take it on.

I live in NYC where you get approached by people with grave mental disorders on a regular basis. Sometimes when I'm on the subway I feel like I'm being bombarded by them. I usually just quickly walk away from them because I just can't deal with them.

Sometimes strangers can be a pain in the neck. It's life. It's annoying but it happens. Sorry this happened to you. It sounds like you did the right thing.

Yeah, I wish I had done, but I was just so startled by the whole thing. It was the way he was just standing there, staring at me, it wasn't like usually someone (even myself on occasion) will say: btw there is half price so and so over there in case you are interested - and just go on their way. He just stood there, looking at me, I guess I picked a really off vibe because usually I don't get so rattled.

Anyways, thank you both for your comments and for listening.

FYI I am 40+ myself, please don't refer to my people as being old people, it upsets us.

Couple of things:

He may have been trying to start a convo/flirt.

He may have felt he was being helpfull

There are a lot of people who live very isolated lifestyles, so he may have been just trying to find some interaction.

Kids. They can't help being young and ignorant.



Yes, it's always unnerving when dotty strangers appear out of nowhere and try to engage you in conversation. I think I would probably have just walked away and done the rest of my shopping and come back a bit later, after he'd had time to do his own business and leave. I couldn't say what his specific condition was, but he was clearly touched in the head. It is true that people who live for years in isolated conditions tend to lose their sense of what's socially appropriate and what isn't. They're so used to prattling to themselves that they just openly babble at strangers the same way.

leafplant this is the kind of s--- that I thought only happened to me. Hope the weird shaken feeling goes away soon. It's good you kept watch around as you went to your vehicle. Hopefully he won't show up right behind you again, if he does, tell management.

(((Hugs)))

Does any of that make it ok to engage with a person who did not give a go ahead to be engaged?

Thanks! I wasn't worried for my safety, though, I just really didn't want to have a conversation with anyone at that point.




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what can I do to make myself look less approachable? I look far too friendly, I'm always being stopped by people on the street and random people on bus stops etc always want to talk to me. It's really unfortunate because I am such a genuinely grumpy and brash person and I wish people would save themselves the upset by not approaching me in the first place. I don't know what I can do. Any ideas?

Sorry leaf you will just have to come to terms with the fact that you are a very likable person