needing a change in my life

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So lately I've been getting frustrated with my current lifestyle as it is--in particular, dating. I will be honest that I haven't been putting in terribly a lot of effort, but am at the point where I'm thinking that that would be the one thing missing from my life. Basically, anyone have any good ideas or suggestions for places to meet people (other than the bar, or other typical places)? I've tried the online thing but am not sure it's worth it. Anyone know of any good dating sites for people with Aspergers or something similar?

I'm thinking that the problem I'm having with typical dating sites has to do with that aspect of my life, even though most people (even my closest friends) couldn't tell I have Aspergers because mine is minor and usually the things that affect me are internal (like reading body language or interpreting others) so I don't realy exhibit any of the typical traits on the outside or in the way I interact with people. (A lot of that I've learned over the years). But dating has always been a mystery to me (as it has been to probably a lot of people on this site.) It's something I'd like to do but can't figure it out apparently. I work quite a bit, so that may play a role.

So if anyone has any suggestions or ideas on how I can work on this (places to go, websites, etc) I would appreciate it. Obviously, bars don't work (everyone knows that unless you're looking for a one nighter, which I'm not). Aren;'t there some Aspie dating sites out there?

I deleted my online dating account yesterday. I've decided a while back to just forget about dating. I'm through with searching for love, and focusing instead on just being happy with life as it is, and trying to do good work.

I even unfriended a bunch of people on facebook, mainly women, because I was sick of seeing what could never be, and didn't want the temptation to get me to try dating again. All a waste of time. Without the temptations, without seeing these people I desire, the desires themselves start to fade, and I've found I've started already to settle into a life that is far more content.

So I say forget online dating. Enjoy your life as it is. Love is a lie, an illusion, a drug we all get addicted to, but the reality is most of us WON'T find the one. We've got to admit to this fact, so we can transcend it and start to live our lives.