" All we ever wanted was everything"

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"All we ever got was cold "

This week was hell for so many diferent reasons, yesterday I went to bed soon. I needed to sleep.
Today I was able to get another couple to go out with us, with a quick call, out of the blue. I asked Mr Six before if he was willing to go out with them to have a coffe and chat so we could hang out with other people which is important for him. I had to cancel because after he knew we had to pick them up cause the place we had in mind is near us but they had no means to get here. My car is a piece if junk but it's my junk and it still works alright. It cheap to keep and my mum offered it to me many years ago so I could be more independent. Mr Six doesn't drive. So when he knew we would get them, he declined to go as it would be bad for his image not to be in the driver's seat, especially with people that he would meer for the first time. I cancelled with a made up good enough reason (or so I think) not to ruin the chance for another invitation in the future, and with time not to get the other two dressed and ready to go.
I was a bit embarassed, but I think I can pull off annother coffee with the other couple another time.
Mr Six and I talked. He said I don't understand the situation I created and if my intentions to socialize were good I don't understand the mechanics involved. The outcome he said would be a negative image of him to the others, so inspite that wasn't my goal nevertheless that would be the result.
He also said I should go out anyway and meet them but I won't cause if it a coffee wih two couples I'm not going alone. My point was for us to be with other people. I thought it would make him happy. It just made him angry and frustrated over my unability to see things.
Image he says is everything.
The way I see things, this is a waste.
I don't understand. I mean, I see his POV but I steel feel this was a waste and not for a good enough reason.

We are not rich. Me driving my piece of junk with everybody in it would be that bad? Frack, the dam thing is ten years old but the painting hasn't got a scrath, the seats are ok, the engine doesn't cough. It's not a grumpy machine. We could even make a joke like "it's my turn tonight, i'll drive the dam thing!"

*Squid turns head sideways* .... *Squints eyes, leans in closer* ....

Nope, still not getting anything, sorry.

when my husband and i go out, i always drive, as he thinks i'm the better driver. your husband is too ensconced in outdated sex roles. he's hurting himself.

I relish getting driven around, I spend too much time behind the wheel and it is nice to just sit there and look out the window provided of course you can trust the other person who is doing the driving (I do have a list of friends I won't get in a car with). I laughed at your "its my turn to drive this thing tonight" I had the same running joke with my very first car, held together with hopes and dreams, and who gets looked at by everyone.

I am sorry your social schedule gets adversely affected, one would think that he would either learn to drive or just get over the issue of being seen driven around.

I didn't care about going out, I was perfectly ok at home. I did the arrangement so we could have something social going on. As we didn't go out and he wouldn't let me be ("you should go out with them anyway instead of staying gome like an old lady"), I quit watching a movie and went to bed. Then he started storming in and out of the room because I was neglecting him. I feel one of us is loosing it.
This is like a dead end. I can't make some sense into his head. I don't know if either of us still has some sense in our heads. Anyway it may not be relevant since this house is not going to hold out much longer. As my family cast me aside, I have no where to go.