What can i do about rage?

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I need help on my very deadly rage, because it has taken alot of my emotions.

what should i do?

TN,

I'm not clear on the exact nature of your issue but in a way I can relate to it in that I too have been a teenager at one time -and coming from the Dark Age (before Lorna Wing) at that.

Is there a councelling service available through your school or that could be referred through your family doctor? Is there anybody in your life that you can trust enough that s/he will not let anything out beyond you two?

Is there a sport that you could take up and get that aggression out without affecting anyone else?

Also, do you have any knack for writing and/or doing art work? There are quite a few different ways that you could deal with it. We Aspies all have our own selective advantages and disadvantages. It's just a matter of finding which is compatible for the individual.

Best of luck! I hope you find a solution soon.

Any more suggestions anybody?

You have to generate pleasant emotions even if it means that you live in a fantasy world a lot of your day. There are a lot of pleasing things about life even when you are down and things are going badly and you have to focus on them. Then you have to take some time to work on solving those problems or finding a way to live with them.

Reducing my sensory overload helped me. The theory is that we feel sound, touch etc. more than NT's do. It overloads, the mind perceives a threatening situation, and the adrenals kick in. Then it's flight or fight.

I've reduced the rage by controlling my environment. I use earplugs and sunglasses (shamelessly!). I avoid malls by shopping online. I refuse invitations to anything crowded. If there's something that I really want to do like go see Sting live, then I cushion that event with sensory withdrawal.

If you're using public transportation, that can be awful. On buses, I pick a seat where nobody can get at me, use my earplugs & sunglasses, and pull a cap down over my eyes.

Oh - a cap, yes - that helps me a lot, no matter where.

To all of that, I added things that feel good, like a massage cushion for my chair.

I hope some of this might help you - good luck.

When I suffer rage, I control it by listening to heavy metal music very loud, or crushing and smashing plastic bottles. That bottle crushing was a suggestion from my psych, as I used to punch my fists and bash my head against the wall. Of course, that don't help, and I've obviously knocked myself out when a head bashing, and bleeding fists through punching. I also (if very angry) shout and curse while filtering the sound through my pillow in front of my face and mouth.

When I feel rage, I watch movies like the "Lethal Weapon" series, Die Hard, or Passenger 57, etc. By the time its over, I feel better. Also, like Alternative said, certain music safely releases the rage for me. Certain herbs have a calming effect, like Passionflower.

I agree that your rage may be due to sensory overload. I know mine is! I'm a very easygoing person, but when I'm in a noisy crowd with screaming kids around me, or in a crowded grocery store, or around several people talking all at once, I become a real a-hole. I've just recently realized the connection between my irritability and sensory overload, and now I'm able to go easier on myself because of it. For me, just understanding and accepting the fact that I can't handle such environments as well as NTs has made a big difference in my anger level. I don't personally try to avoid these situations, because I don't want to compromise my lifestyle. For some reason, just figuring out WHERE the anger was coming from has made a huge difference for me. Now I don't get quite as agitated when these situations occur, because I know WHY I'm upset and I know the situation won't last long - if it does, then I just remove myself and go somewhere to chill.