Good places to meet young women without a social circle?

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Most relationships happen from friends or friends of friends or when groups of friends collide etc. What are some good places to meet young women if you fail to obtain the privilege of a social circle?

We all know by now that online dating is abysmal for men and since women do not like strangers, approaching women as a stranger is just as unproductive. Nightclubs can at least tease you with short moments of pleasure but for finding a girlfriend they are worthless too.

Nothing vague or ambiguous please. Please give me concrete advice and instructions. This is an site for autists after all.

Looks like nobody knows. Aspie males without a social circle sure are f****d.

I have no idea how other people do it. The religious culture I grew up in encourages us to marry so it was expected for everyone to go on dates with a variety of people. I actually met my wife at a pot luck dinner after church one week. We started dating and now we've been married for 13 years.
Good luck and stay safe

Join groups on Meetup to create yourself a social circle. Make sure they're generic "hanging out" groups, rather than male-oriented sports or technology groups. Even better if the group attends or engages in theater activities, since they tend to attract quirky, non-judgmental types. Also take a dance class, if you can swing it (pun intended). They tend to have more women than men, and women tend to respect men who want to learn classic dancing. Just read up on etiquette and boundaries before going to such a class.

The only places that do not require high amounts of social skills are religious communities like church groups. My parents weren't religious so I was out of luck on that. Now I'm kind of too late to the party and religious circles tend to be a bit closed off so without a social circle to introduce you it's a dead end. Going to meet-ups, conventions or bars quickly have me ostracised for lacking small talk ability and presence. I try to talk to other people and they either ignore me or don't return the conversation. They make me feel even worse than before I go.

Everyone I know with autism that has met a partner met them through their friends or parents hooking them up. If you aren't exceedingly attractive, can't get a circle of friends and your parents don't care you are out of luck I guess. All you can do is keep trying ( and improving yourself physically and mentally ) hoping for that one small lucky chance you might meet someone who is genuinely interested in you. Roughly 4% of all people in the west go through their entire life without a single serious relationship, so we might be those I guess.

The answer to the topic should be obvious. You can meet stranger girls in hobby groups, religious groups, dancing and probably a few more. But you just don't go join these groups and then go right up to some girl asking for a date (that would kill your chances in that group). You flirt with them and see some of them likes you, and then after a while of that, you might ask them to join you in other types of activities (and this is not sex, mind you).

I'd also say that it is no loss to have no friends. At least I'm unable fall in love with av friend, so that's just a total waste of time to get friends in order get a girlfriend.

I really want a girlfriend but they all say no y

Good places to meet single girls include ballroom dancing classes (Latin or Standard, there are never enough guys for partnering), adult beginner's ballet or gymnastics and any kind of arts/crafts class (pottery, knitting, embroidery, etc). All of these are venues where you will see the same people week after week.

However, not having friends (and thus no social circle) suggests your social skills might be the problem. If so, addressing that issue first (making friends, usually easier than finding a romantic relationship) is probably the way to go.

The kitchen?......I mean get a job working in a kitchen and meet women there. They like a man who can cook especially a chef!

Hm, I like that idea.