I Am So Afraid.

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Hi all
Not really a rear poster but avid reader. I am at my wits end and numb with fear at the moment. I'm facing several difficult situations and have no one to turn to.

1. I am currently employed but in a fit of pique and fear; I applied for another position and was successful. The position is better paid but I'm not fond of the work and it's more travel. I currently work at the same place as my fiancee and I really need her near me because I'm a neurotic mess at the best of times and don't like the idea of not having her around during the day.

I was offered the role and made my current job aware. They want me to stay and at the time of writing; they are preparing an offer to keep me. I'm scared because I've never been in this situation before and don't want to loose everything because I over reached

2. My fiancée's brother could be facing prison time for a desperate act of theft bought on by a bad situation. I really don't know what to do if he goes down. My fiancée will be devastated and my mother in law also. I don't know how to be strong for myself let alone anyone else!

Please; someone help me with this. I want it all just to stop and am seriously considering just running and hiding from it all.

It sounds like you made a wise move with your job. It's not an uncommon maneuver, and your current job might raise your pay to keep you. I would suggest other means of support in addition to your fiance. This might help you feel more balanced.

As for your fiance's brother, it's unfortunate but it's not your responsibility to shoulder everyone's feelings. If he hasn't been sentenced yet, it might not be as bad as what you are picturing. Focus on the now, not the "what ifs"

Take a deep breath, and try to shut down that anxiety spiral. Remember that so much of what we worry about never will happen.

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I haven't slept at all thinking about these things as I seem to default to trying to shoulder everyone's problems and needs as well as my own. I'll post an update after today.

The positive thing about both situations is that they will both come to a resolution fairly soon, and once you have some solid information, the way forward may be more clear. Maybe try to distract yourself from the suspense?

I agree with MjrMajorMajor, it's good advice.

Good luck!

I think it's great that you're advancing in your field.

If it's the brother's first offense, he might get a nonprison sentence, even if it's's a felony (I work in the criminal justice system, not a cop).