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As some of you are aware, I will soon have a son in a week or two. To be frank, I am happy about it, but pretty scared on the prospect of additional responsibilities. For those who have kids, how did you deal with this massive change in your life?

I don't have kids----but I wish you luck, anyway.

Congratulations!

At least, nowadays, men participate in the birth.

In the old days, you had to settle for giving out cigars.

I hope people with kids will tell you more.

I don't have kids neither, but i see from other parents that the love you will feel for your child will give you wings like a red-bull , it will help you manage the change.

I would already prepare a nice blue bedroom

Hi. Congratulations.
I have a 2yr old son, and yes, it's scary.
He is the single most important thing in my life, and brings me nothing but joy.
He taught me how good a hug can be, how to read emotions in a face (not someone else though )
My biggest worry is interacting with other parents in nursery, school and sports later on.
I was a bit worried about social skills, but he is doing really fine.
I know there's certain things I can't teach him, and I rely on my NT wife for that.
The most challenging part is dealing with everything else, like work and alone time, (still working on that one)
I don't know about your life situation, if you have a wife or girlfriend, if you got family to help.
If you are able to sneak in some alone time (30 minutes of minecraft or 20 min in the bathroom), its very helpful.
(try to do the same for Your wife/ girlfriend, they need it to)
Talk and listen to each other (I know its a cliche but listening to my wife was difficult at times)

Good luck to you. It's really quite easy, change nappies, feed him, hold him when he cries, you'll get in the rhythm of it.

I am not diagnosed as being ASD yet, but have a referral from my GP and awaiting an appointment.

I have 6 children aged , 27,23,22,19,18 and almost 16.

I was 18 when i got pregnant with my first and really was not very sure what to expect as I had never held / bathed / dressed / fed a baby. I basically knew nothing.

Midwives can be helpful initially with the basic things as mentioned above.

I recall taking my son home and realising I did not even know how to make formula milk up.

It comes though. If you have someone you can ask advise from can be very helpful, like a health visitor.

Also when baby is first born it's a very strong intense feeling to look after them.

Some people will tell you they love the baby straight away, where as I found that not totally true. I had a huge urge to bond and protect and care for my first baby, but I think love builds day by day.

Best advice rest as much as you can just now and during early labour. Once baby comes try to sleep when baby sleeps so you will manage the break in nights much better.

Feel free to PM me and I will do my best to help if I can.

Four daughters - two deceased. Two grandsons. It will always be scary. You will experience both joy and pain. But in the end - it's all worth it.