Is love at first sight possible?

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I met somone over the internet on sunday, and by monday, she says she is in love with me. We have talked non stop since sunday, and she has seen and heard me over the net. She lives over 1400 miles away in Texas, so we can't easily go and meet each other. I I have been through this before, my first, and only girlfriend and I met online and fell in love, but we were very cautious and slow going, and it still took only about a month for the both of us to know we were in love. I have been trying to tell her to slow down and evaluate her feelings, we just met and such, but she is convinced that she is in love with me.
She is an NT, and she does know about all my problems, but she doesn't care. She also says that she isn't affected much by a guy's looks, which is interesting as my mother says that as well. I know she's not like super attracted to me, so that takes lust out of the equation. And she's been in love before with a boyfriend, so she would know what it feels like. I want to beleive that this is for real, but I just find it hard to beleive. I don't doubt her honesty, and I myself am falling for her, but I won't allow myself to move to quickly with my emotions; I don't want to get hurt. What should I do?

definitely. infatuation is a feeling. it's not bound by reason. even love at no sight is possible. even medication can trigger it sometimes. in love with a nameless character from a dream. i've experienced it myself. if it is felt, then by definition it is real. whether or not it's meaningful though is another story


if not getting hurt is your highest priority, then you should cease all communication with her immediately. don't fool yourself. you will get hurt. the only question is whether you think it's worth it or not, and that's only up to you

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Infatuation and love are not the same thing. Instant-infatuation is definitely possible, but true love is something that's built over time. I don't see how you can truly love somebody you know nothing about.

No. If it occurs at first sight, it can't be love, just lust.

well those are just side effects of the huge vagueness, ambiguity and subjectivity of the word. "love at first sight" really means "in love at first sight", which means infatuation

the fact that she felt so carried away almost instantly only tells you that she's either 1. impulsive, 2. having difficulties with disproportionate emotions (like maybe feeling suffocated in her current life and desperate for an escape), or 3. going through some kind of hormonal imbalance or something like that. but the fact that she told you that she's in love with you is the real flashing neon red flag there. it shows that she either 1. can't tell the difference between fantasy and reality / between emotion and fact, or 2. is only interested in "riding the wave"

no sane relationship can come out of it. whether or not you're okay with an insane relationship... up to you. it typically makes for good sex (and stormy arguments...). but if you're not going to have sex or if it doesn't matter much to you, then if i were you i would stay away. i wouldn't even try to convince her of anything. "love is blind" (and deaf). she won't listen