What's the point?

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Hi all,

Since I dated two 38 year olds. They find me attractive because I am very committed, mature and that at 25 years old. I dated one girl around my age and she sees me in very different way. She finds me immature. There something going on with Gen-Y how they analyse people when coming to dating and relationships. I rarely get acceptance and attention from women at my age but the older ones do because they are not a same kind of people because they lived more than 15 years or more without technology and such influences.

However I didn't get onto them because they are too old for me, and it makes me feel too old for my own age. I am not even ready for a family because I haven't got a secure job and house yet! I am worrying about myself first. That is the point of being 25. So the question in this thread title, "What's the point?" refers to why people in Gen-Y are coping more challenges than the older ones?

Tinder, dating websites, television media and related impacts on how they analyse relationships, sex and dating game. Last night at the local Autism meet up we discuss about 'dating game'. The points from the presentation were so clear there is a social divide between socially dumb and socially intelligent people. They mentioned 'technology, internet and media' taken granted to divide young people's minds of what they want to do. Unfortunately many psychologists were being ignored by this influence because it hasn't helped any young minds. Many of my friends and people I know at my age aren't being serious. If you go back to our parents at being our age they already committed at the time.

I find this astoundingly true by my analytical observation on how young people socialise these days. I am feeling a lot of pressure finding a potential partner than the way how my parents felt when they were at my age. I can't say who I am going to blame for all of those reasons of why its so difficult to find a partner now. Being 25 is so normal to find early days of your love. Now its all meaningless sex and hardcore dating game. Justin Bieber, Lindsay Lohan and related peoples' attitudes clearly evident to my perspective. I have been going out many places each week meeting new friends and that. Meetup gatherings, local Autism and deaf clubs, environmental and sustainability related community groups get together and I am member of disability advocacy groups where I do my advocate campaign work on disability awareness.

To be honest, at 25 I am extremely committed like how my father and previous generations at 25. That have been so attractive to women. Now the attraction is gone and they gone into heartless land of meaningless sex with super good model looking guys. How they suppose to learn anything from doing this repetitive crap all over again and again, like rebound relationships? I can't see any positive and happiness from people at my age because they dont seem enjoying other people's company that is connect together. People don't do partner dance anymore. That is good example. It all nightclub dance off and outside alcohol fuelled violence. Past times were much better because its healthier, safer, compassionate and desirable.

I always wanted, and stay committed to have a lovely, caring and old fashioned women of my life to get married with and have a family of my own. Right now I don't feel confident by all the observations around the world the peace is not happening

*Crickets chirping*

So, your point is that it's everyone else's fault for you not achieving what you want?

To an extent, the fact he was born legally deaf and despite trying still has verbal and text communication issues, does contribute to the fact that a majority of N.T.'s may overlook him due to the fact to some people he might sound 'dumb' or 'mentally challenged' even if he is NOT.

Ecomatt here has been unfortunate enough to have a double-whammy - deafness and Asperger's.

He has two Master's degrees yet is struggling to find work.

Don't even get me started on his struggles to find love.

He is confident, average/normal looking, hardworking, well-groomed, well-mannered and successful.

Unlike a lot of aspies his age who still live at home, have no degree, have never worked, don't drive, etc.

Ecomatt has two Master's degrees and has spoken publicly in a variety of groups and causes.

He has done environmental group public speeches and other similar things.

He's volunteered, traveled the world, and even did a humanitarian effort in Hong Kong.

Not true! There's plenty of partner dancing going around; you just gotta actively look for it. While you won't find it in most mainstream clubs anymore, nearly all classic dance studios that have open dancing, for everyone to just come and dance. They teach things like ballroom, swing, Latin, and some of the more obscure dances. You don't even need a partner. Everybody dances with everybody (barring blatant personal discomfort), and turning people down is discouraged. There is absolutely no issue with coming by yourself. The classic dance community understands that their interest is not mainstream, so it's a given that some people have no choice but to come alone.

The mainstream clubs that still do have partner dancing are Latin dance clubs. (Word of caution: they tend to be dark, loud, and crowded.) The unwritten rules are similar to dance schools: you can ask any lady to dance with you, and for the most part, she'll say yes. Couples who come to these places tend to stick to each other, but a few mingle as well. Some women may even get quite close to you on the dance floor, given the nature of Latin dancing in general. Just don't fall into the trap of seeing her actions as romantic interest. However, you generally don't want to come to those places by yourself. It's still a group social event, unlike the classic dance studios.

It not competitive thing. it about privileges. They understood people being different like colour of skin, ethnicity, culture and disability etc. But when comes to ASD, it not a well understood disability in today's society because of lot of stigma and stereotypes in daily media and conversations. Like employment issues where people judge our inabilities rather than experiences, passion and skills.

It a same how women sees me, but more likely I haven't met anyone like minded yet. They see me in wrong way when I wasn't trying to be rude, offensive nor threatening. I am quite independent person and have done so many achievements.