Whould you go out with a women who tried to trick you

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Would you go out with a women who shows up with with a male friend or lapdog, to get you chase her.

Rewarding someone for attempting to manipulate your emotions sets an unhealthy precedent.

No, but it sounds like the beginning of a very interesting story. I'd watch it on TV. Sounds like a law and order criminal intent episode intro.

Generally a good idea not to take things further with women who already have a boyfriend.

Not sure if she knows you're interested in her or not, but maybe she doesn't really know how to instigate and is just trying to give you the push.

It isn't a good way to go about it, no sir. Sounds like what a young teen would do.

"Shows up with a male friend". You were not very descriptive about the scenerio, so I will first address it at face value assuming she knew you were looking for a possible romantic relationship.
The short answer is no. Someone who shows with a guest who is uninvited usually means they are wary of the other party and is not interested.
With that said...did she know it was a date or did she think you just wanted to "hang out"?
As a general rule, you never invite anyone to a gathering with another person without asking the other person first.

Instant "nope" from me.

This is a women at work.

I signalled her for almost three years now, I can clearly see that she has low self esteem. I tried to talk to her 3 months ago and I ran out of ideas. She had this depressed look on her face (TBH, I was already on the fence at that point) so I figured I would try to cheer her up. I asked her how her day was and she said it was "long long long", then I couldn't couldn't come up with anything else to say. After 3 seconds she darted off. The next time I saw her walk by that day, she looked so frustrated, she couldn't even walk straight.

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Wat

She stares and glances for almost three years and she hasn't even said hi to me.

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Three years is a pretty long time of waiting and trying. I'm surprised you're still kind of interested/curious about her.

She does sound like someone that's pretty self-conscious/low-esteemed, and it seems like you're pretty receptive to how she acts around you.

She could just be the type of woman that has a lot of male friends to validate her and get some attention from. How much do you really know about her?

It's good that you try to talk to her, but do you always have to carry on the conversation? Sometimes it's easier to get other people to talk by letting them talk about themselves.

That was the one and only time I talked to her. She was grabbing stuff from her looker. I think she was on her way to her car again. For some reason, when ever she has a break she goes to her car instead of the break room. Recently she appears to have broken the routine.

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If she hasn't initiated interaction with you, then what gives you the idea her intention with bringing a male friend along with her was for you to chase her? Perhaps you could elaborate on the initial story in your O.P since this is not making much sense.

Also I don't understand how she's 'entitled' because on a day she seemed noticeably depressed or upset, she didn't stick around to chit chat after answering how her day was..and you didn't say anything else. Sounds like she was having a bad day and not in the mood for a lot of conversation.

I am a cashier at at a large retail store. For what is almost three years this girl looks at me when she passes by the lanes. One day she decided to come to the breakroom. This was an anomaly because she RARELY ever went the breakroom.

I was siting on an empty table. She came in and decided to sit on my table the opposite corner. It was so awkward! she had this tense look on her face, she sat with her legs crossed and she was flicking her foot around in circles. She didn't say anything. I didn't have anything to say, I was uncomfortable. Eventually this dude walks in and sits straight across from her. It seemed like this guy talked to her earlier. She seemed disturbed by the guy. The conversation sounded so forced. She shot intimidating questions at him like a job interviewer. She kept turning her head over at me. When it was time for me to leave I got up and she was looking again. as I walked near her chair I stopped and gave her a good smile right in front of the guy. (Apon reflection my gut tells me that what was happening right there was real) I don't think she ever went on a date this guy. Because later he was giving me a don't do it man! look.

The weekend before

The weekend before we had two chances to talk.

On Saturday, as soon as I opened my lane she came over and put a soda on the conveyor belt. I said what I usually say when I ring people up.

On Sunday, when I headed to the break room. I looked through the window on the door and to my horror I spotted her siting on one of the tables. I wasn't prepared to strike a conversation, so I turned around and stood next to the lockers with my phone. She eventually came out, hovered around for a minute, she then went to her looker which was right across from me. She looked at me with the corner of her eye and then headed back to work.

Later that day she looked at me with a sad wistful face as she passed my lane. (And it was up close)


The trick

Yesterday to my knowledge she didn’t look at me when she passed my lane (she could have when I wasn’t paying attention).

I sit on a table alone breakroom and she shows up with this new guy who was fancily dressed and a bit on the chubby side. I look up at them she instinctively looked at me. They sit at the table across from me. The guy was barbering on about something and she was laughing so loud. She was only there for a short period of time I think she spent most of her break somewhere else. After she left the the guy looked nervously down at his phone.

Because YOU clearly have a crush on HER, you may be reading a but too into this looking g for any semblance of a sign she's interested back.

So...you were chasing her but you don't want to chase her now that she wants you to chase her?

I really don't care.