Did you want to have kids?

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I' turned 30 so this section is for me

My dream is to have son (preferably without Asperger's or autism ), but i know it's unreal especially since i barely menage my own life let alone managing other inexperienced life that you need to teach virtually everything, and i'm probably gay so the matter is probably sealed

But i have two nieces on 18 years old and the other turning 13 this year, i like play board games with them, I can say that I corrupts girls they become a nerds , and this very bad trait for girls the oldest is already lost she learning Japanese, maybe it is because they have an uncle with Asperger

I have two kids. I'd like more, but my health isn't good. (Neither are my genes.)

If I were to get healthier again, I'd love more children...but I'd adopt. I like having autistic children, but I passed a chronic pain condition to my daughter. I will never do that to another child.

I do not wish to have children. I would feel responsible for every bad thing they experienced.

Have an autosomal dominant genetic bone disease with a 50/50 chance of passing that to a child, and I can't even take care of myself let alone someone else. So no, I don't want kids. That is for the best.

I did want children when I was younger, but a medical condition I developed at 24 took that off the table for me. I figured nobody would want to marry or even date me if they found out. Plus, like Windstorm, I would have felt responsible for every problem a child of mine had. Even if they had been fortunate enough to be completely "typical," they wouldn't have listened to a thing I said and would have laughed in my face if I told them anything.

Nope.

My mother desperately wanted to have babies. She had me, but then could not get pregnant again, and adopted two kids. Those two adopted kids made our lives utter hell growing up with their ongoing behavioral problems. My sister is an adult now, almost 40, and still has behavioral problems so severe she can't hold down a job, has a hoarding disorder, and is on the verge of being evicted from her trailer and losing her children in the process.

I saw how deeply unhappy being a mother made my own mother. She was always angry, sad, and she lashed out at us. Life was not easy growing up.

And due to life being difficult, I had severe crippling depression for many years.

There's no way I want that and would never doom anyone to that life. I would make a terrible mother because I have no patience for noise or disorder. I like things quiet and tidy.

No I don't want to have kids.

But i have two nieces on 18 years old and the other turning 13 this year, i like play board games with them, I can say that I corrupts girls they become a nerds , and this very bad trait for girls the oldest is already lost she learning Japanese, maybe it is because they have an uncle with Asperger

No. I have a few talents; being a mother would not be one of them.

Nope, I didn't. My son was a 'happy accident'. I love him very much but I'm not exactly the motherly sort.

It made me grow up a bit, having him. And without him, I might never have found out I'm autistic.

Yes I do. Still have to take care of the "get a wife" part first, though.

Always wanted one child and I've got one child, a daughter
She doesn't have any autistic traits, maybe some strong sensitivities, but she's quite a social, smiley, happy little girl, a bit of a tomboy. So unlike me as a kid.
I've never wanted more kids, hated being pregnant, childbirth was a bloody massacre, baby years - stressful and exhausting... so, no more. I could definitely date someone with children though, as long as they wouldn't live with me. I'll stick to animals, thank you

Not really. Between the Autism, ADHD, and Mental Illness I did not want to take a chance of passing it on. Plus, like another said I would most likely feel like all of the problems my child had ever were my fault. I then started Transitioning and that guaranteed I would never have children. But it does make me sad sometimes.

I thought about what it would be like to have a couple of daughters, but OTOH I wasn't allowed to do a whole lot as a kid... I'd try to make up for it by giving my girls things lke BB rifles, go-karts, etc, i.e., the cool toys I was never allowed to have. The other parents would probably lynch me.

Still have to take care of the "get a wife" part first, though.

How many unwritten rules of dating are there?

I have one child who is NT but was unable to have more. I didn't know at the time when I had her that I was on the spectrum. I'm glad now that I only have one.