Anyone have any experience with a narcissist?

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I became friends with this guy a couple of years ago. He seemed to really like me for some reason, complimenting me, buying me things, etc and we seemed to have a few things in common. I found him really easy to get along with, which felt amazing because I hardly get along with anyone.

Until.. He started belittling and acting cold towards me. I thought he had gotten bored with me until I realised he showed all the signs of NPD - literally saying he's better than everyone, entitled, manipulative, narcissistic rage, etc. He belittled my new job the other day, saying it sounded easy and boring, even though he doesn't actually know what I do.

He still says he's my friend, and we still do things together, but I feel weird around him now I know what he is, and I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing in case I trigger his rage.

It's hurts a lot though, knowing one of the few people who liked me apparently only sees me as a tool to be manipulated. I miss feeling like I had an amazing friend. Also, even though I know he's bad new I still feel like I'm addicted and I keep going back for more. Is it possible for an aspie to be friends with a narcissist or is it best to run away?

I've dealt with several of them and they seem to start out as good people but then they change. One of them I believe was heading for it and I stopped talking to her because I got tired of her "I'm better than everyone else" attitude and calling them all spoiled brats because she was so jealous of them and she had low self esteem of herself and thought she had it worse than everyone else.

The other I also stopped talking to and boy he was hard to get rid of because he would harass me by IMing me under different screen names and wouldn't quit talking to them but yet said I was mean to him but yet would still talk to me. Couple years later I decided to give him another chance after he had IM me and the conversation was normal but then the following day when i started the chat with him, he was like "I don't think I want to talk to you" and I asked him why and he went "You were so mean to me all these years" and I go "okies" and block him again.

I have dealt with another one on public forums and many members had problems with her and she would get banned and she had a big victim complex but yet she always start drama with others and always bullied others but then play the victim and she would also accuse others of doing things they were not even doing and see attack in posts that were not even there and see insults that were not even there and if you didn't see things her way, she would get mean to you.


Then there was my ex boyfriend and I don't care what she claims to have, still a narcissist under my eyes. If it looks like a duck.

I leave all these people and ignore them. It took lot of strength for me to ignore that person on the forums because she knew how to push your buttons and ignoring her would make her act even worse so she would start these bait threads and even use my name to try and get me started but I would ignore her. She did it to other members too and it was always obvious she was talking about someone in her threads. It was always to cause drama and stir people up and she called it all trauma. Sorry but lot of people who have been abused as children and experienced trauma and have been raped and they don't act like she does so she doesn't have an excuse like she claims.

But I don't think my first ex was a narc, just only mentally ill and a jerk. I'm not saying that mentally ill people can't be narcissists. Sometimes it is part of their illness because NPD is one and so is BPD. I am not even sure if these other narcissists I have dealt with also had BPD instead. I am suspecting one of my other former online friends who I dumped who lived in Holland had BPD and I describe him as a narcissist because he did gas lighting and manipulation on me and thank god for our chat history or I wouldn't have figured it out. He was very clingy and often thought I was ignoring him so that is what rings the bell for me for BPD. also the fact he would say he was taking me off his friends list or log off in rage whenever he got mad at me and then all of a sudden a few days later he would come back and say how what a good friend I am to him and he doesn't stay mad at me because I am a very good friend. Splitting. But I got tired of it so i finally blocked him and he said he didn't want to talk to me either but yet just wanted to argue with me.