Stupid advice from the internet

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Well this popped up on my Facebook feed.
It's surely a joke. Right?

http://www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/attraction/chasing-him-dont-know-it.html?s=61931

Edit. quote requires context.
This is a list of how to push him away. According to the article.

I think my iq just dropped a couple of points reading that...

The person who created this article said she attracted "losers". Anyone with this sort of condescending tone shouldn't be trusted.

I'd love for a woman I'm crushing on to give me that sort of attention.

No, this is the list "how to end up in friendzone"
I do initiate contact, call men, I make plans = cool girl, cool to hang out.
Then they go after the one who is playing games.
Unfortunately mindgames create tension, makes him want what he can't get.
I DO NOT LIKE THIS.
Why can we not be honest about how we feel?

I think this article is stupid and was written by a person who knows nothing about the relationships.

I've actually had better luck with asking a guy for his phone number than with giving him my phone number.

Although, note this is a one way street; only one party has the ability to initiate contact with the other.

In my experience this article's advice is not necessarily true. I'd take it with a grain of salt, or maybe it's meant to be humorous.

Doesn't the book "The Rules", which is probably the best selling and most influencial dating book (on women), is full of such similar stupid advices?

Let's be honest, most women never chase men, and many out there apparently believe in this sh_t.

This aligns well with typical NT dating style. I can see how it would work well for typical women who get chased themselves.

The thing is, if you spend the entire courtship playing a role and going against your instincts, you're bound to end up with the wrong guy. Meanwhile, Mr. Right sees that you're in a relationship and moves on.

I've broken all of those rules, and I'm happily married for more than ten years. The thing is......volume control. Yes, you have to hold back a little if you're the kind of autistic who is way too intense, like me for example. It's like one of those baroque dances, where I do your move and the guy then does his move, and then it's back to you...etc.

If you act completely passive, the anxiety will make you explode anyway. Some guys like women who take some initiative. There are plenty of guys who prefer passive women, but honestly none of us here have the acting abilities required for that role.

Who knows, I'm no expert. But you only need one guy. You only have to fit with one guy, not with half the planet.

I'm gonna play the devil's advocate here (not trolling), what she's saying is that men are clueless when it comes to finding dates. I think that is somewhat true, because we tend to be surprised when all of a sudden we hear a girl likes us. We try to find the truth of the matter from other people, so when we hear directly from the voice of someone that she likes us, we know right then and there she likes us. Now, that does sound terrible for shy people, because you risk being humiliated in front of someone. I'm not socialable, and there have been times when women confuse me when they like me or not. Sometimes people have to directly tell me that they are kidding or joking, and that doesn't work well some of the time either. Human beings are not telepathic, and I'm terrible when it comes to understanding the implications of poetry and sometimes lyrics of songs, so it's better for me to know if someone likes me if that person is direct to me, so that I know that they imply they like me. Yes, I am that clueless with people.

Whoops...

It's stupid but I don't get why you're surprised.

Are you telling me that it's new to you?