I dont think Im ready for the transition to adulthood.

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Im 18 almost 19 and in my last year of school. Im not sure what I am going to do after school. I dont want to live with my parents forever. My parents and teachers think I might qualify for disability. I want a job though.

I can do basic chores like laundry, and washing dishes. I have a hard time with the vacuum because of sensory overload.

Many people say I am like a child. They say I have an excitability that they like. They talk to me weird too. I dont know why. Im into some kid things and I dont really get along with people my age. I get along better with people in grade 8 and 9.

My parents are protective of me. They dont let me do as much as my other siblings. They are scared about my transition to adulthood too.

Are you in a program for young people who are transitioning into adulthood?

Yes, I go to the youth centre after school. There is a good program there. Its helpful. Its also a place for me to go after school. I get extra support.

I just dont feel confident about being an adult. Sometimes I feel self conscious about my neurodiversity. I get treated differently. People are sometimes scared by me

Hey likemusic,

That is a pretty scary transition. When I was around your age I wasn't particularly interested in learning to drive or going to school. A lot of those transitions were scary. I still have difficulty with the "adult world," but one thing I've learned is most adults don't really know what they're doing. I think they try hard to be some idea of an adult and to appear more secure than they are. Most of them are totally out of touch with themselves, and not secure enough to live and let live. You seem a step ahead, in that sense.

I like your signature. You have a great attitude

Yeah. I cant drive because of impulse problems and I am always moving my hands. I want to go to postsecondary school.

I just have severe learning difficulties.
Many people dont think I act mature
Thank you. My signature means a lot to me.

What do you want to major in?

It's better you learn the requisite skills sooner than later. Personally, I hate the whole helicopter parenting thing. My parents let me do my own thing; from the age of about ten, I was cooking all my meals for myself and basically living the life of an adult. I think this is a better approach than mollycoddling.

Personally, I've never understood aspies who raise the complaint you've done; I wanted to become independent as soon as possible and have had no trouble in that department. I do sympathize with you though. My only advice is that we humans can take a lot more than people think. It's incredible how adaptable we are when forced to be.

Yeah, my parents are overprotective. I wish they were not. My younger brother who also has autism gets more freedom than I do. My younger sister also gets more freedom. My older siblings are independent.

I want to be independent. I just have extreme social and language difficulties. That means I type better than I speak. Im not high functioning. Im apparently in the middle of the spectrum. I dont know what that really means. I want to be like my neurotypical classmates sometimes. I feel isolated. I dont know what Im doing wrong in social situations until people tell me. They say I seem like I dont listen and that I dont talk enough.

Just take the transition at your own pace, the pace that's right for your interests, abilities, and current situation. You don't have to be the same kind of adult that other people are. Be the adult that works for you. Some adults don't drive, some are bad at housework chores, some are nervous about their social performance. Just be you.