Anxiety

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Does anyone ever find it exhausting and debilitating anxiety? to the point where you're constantly worried about how people will perceive you, trying to please others, trying to understand everything in life, when it comes to things you may generally struggle with on a day to day basis? trying to be a people pleaser? fretting over being judged, how people will treat you or react? do you try and sometimes understand things when you don't or get confused but are too afraid to say anything, in case you're mocked, ridiculed or made to feel stupid? do you sometimes worry about confiding in people if you need too because you're afraid of being let down or people reacting in such a way that you'll then wish you kept quiet? Does it make you feel timid? do you find sometimes life hectic? crowds and energy making you feel like you just want to stay in and keep away from people! does the sound of loud booming music from cars, to engines revving, people talking loudly and the hustle, bustle and pressures of life just get too much?

This isn't aimed at anyone or anything, it's just a generalisation but i just thought it was something that's worth discussing.

How's everyone coping with the lockdown again? even though it sucks that not all shops are open but in some ways, i'm i the only one that find the social distancing, reducing crowds in public a good thing?

I can identify with this.

The bit you put about music and noise. It is sudden loud noise I do not get on with, like a loud bang. In the last job working with bicycles which I have done on and off for much of my working life, occasionally we would get a loud bang if a tyre exploded. The effects of the loud bang would be with me for months. Every tyre I would slowly pump up and check it many times as I pumped it up. I was on pins and needles pumping them up!

personally
i like how desolate the streets got
i am hypersensitive to sensory information
and find quiet a lot of people that i come into contact with
very difficult to be around

find people being noisy, impolite, pushing and shoving
all very tiring and difficult

i don't human beings were ever designed to live in modern day cities
in fact i doubt that human beings (if we were designed for a reason)
were designed to be enslaved in a working week, just so we could then spend
our hard earn't cash on consumer products, mostly that we don't actually need

i think the human race was likely designed to live in and around nature
in harmony with earth and the sky

rather than shutting it out and being banished from our second Eden
what we have done to the world is a miracle and murdering of the natural miracle we call life

but hey ho
what can a single person do to turn back the time
can the time even be turned back

just pick up the pieces i guess
do our best

I used to feel as you do. I was long told that a small dose of an anti-anxiety or antidepressant med can make quite the difference. I’ve never taken any meds or given my children any, until I decided I needed something in order to “cope” due to a particularly traumatic experience. Prior to taking a medication I was prescribed, I could barely cope even writing on WP as I had overwhelming “exposure anxiety”. Even now I struggle to initiate a post here, but it’s 90% better than it used to be. I was mute due to anxiety when younger, and though I felt well-liked in school, I was nick-named “Mouse” and “SuperSqueak” affectionately in my teens. I feel I was very fortunate growing up in Australia with such caring friends. I’m still in contact with quite a number thanks to FB.

Anxiety has always been the dominant emotion.

I can understand that! then you'll have that flight or fight response where you're alert and wondering when the next noise will be! i hate it if people shout, hit stuff or slam doors too, that provokes the same sort of uneasiness just like traffic or noisy vehicles. Thank you for your response! that must've been difficult working in a bicycle shop! thanks for sharing your experiences. the bang would be with you for months, sounds like ptsd too. I don't think people realise the stresses and strains of this modern world and general noises and mechanics, how it affects us.

Thank you for sharing your experiences and what a response! got to admit, it did have a recovering affect on the planet and in the summer, it was nice to hear the birds outside tweeting away and no traffic earlier on in the year! exactly! alot of things that we do, to the way we live, foods we eat, stuff we do isn't designed for us humans! even down to sports, contorting our bodies in unnatural ways, to using rollercoasters which our bodies arent equipped to use. You're right! the hustle and bustle is stressful, the pushing and shoving, people not showing consideration or awareness of respecting ones personal space. The cleanliness is good with the wiping down of trolleys in supermarkets but tbh i think they should've done all that way before this.

Olympics, relying on time on a clock or watch then going by the seasons and light/dark of the day.

Thank you for sharing your experiences.
That is commendable that you don't take any meds and don't give your children any too. I'm sorry to hear about your traumatic experience. I am glad that things have improved for you! i can relate! i'm worried constantly about being ridiculed, judged, offending others! i even suffer in silence as i find it hard to voice how i feel, confide in people, if i have to say something, it's extremely difficult for me, i go into hermit mode. Then i cant sleep at night and dwell on the littlest of things and worry incase anyones upset or angry at me and fear there reactions. This is just generalised by the way, i didn't even intend to go back to using wrongplanet but then to find people read my post, its appreciated. I worry if i break anything or did anything wrong, i keep things to myself even though it's better to open up as i'm fear of judgement. Aww i'm so glad that you've kept in touch with your friends on fb and had friendships. This lockdown must be affecting everyone more than usual too. In the uk, they reduced the amount of figures by 5,000 at one point, saying it excludes those in care homes and at home, whereas beforehand they didn't know how many did or not have covid, they say one thing than another, value the economy over lives. Blame everything on the virus, despite making society become cashless and shopless for a long time prior, so that we just all rely on international industrial warehouses, bigger shops and amazon. People are generally rude and aggressive at times and this virus, the programming of these protest has made things worse. People generally are unhappy, anxious and angry. Doesn't help with what they put in our foods and how hectic things are. Some people have no friendships or relationships and lack love . Sorry i digress. Getting back to anxiety though, this year has made people more conscious of there wellbeing, health so that's a good thing!

Have general worries on health, money, relationships but i do appreciate all i have, all the good things people have done for me, loved ones. Having a roof over my head, access to food and water.

I hope things improve for you.

Thank you pepe! appreciate it!
Thank you for your kind words, very decent of you!

Thank you everyone!
stay safe!

all the best!