Minor issue at work...

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Well I was tagging as fast as I could but one woman while waiting for a rack was standing just behind me to where I could not see them waiting for me to finish. But....I have some PTSD issues and well it kinda really gets to me if someone is behind me like that. This woman though my co-worker she is always so apologetic and like seems kinda nervous so I didn't want to say anything to hurt her feelings but with her behind me like that I even got shakey tagging the clothes just cause it freaks me out to have anyone like right behind where I can't really see them. So I kinda moved just so she was not so much behind me...but I hope that didn't hurt her feelings but also I was worried if I asked her to move away if that would have upset her. I just didn't know what to do so I finished tagging as best I could so she could take the rack out. But for sure I had to like deep breathe and really force myself to just stay chill but still worried about like if she noticed any frustrated body language or anything because even my boyfriend has pointed out I am not very good at hiding that kind of stuff or faking it. But yeah I just didn't know if it would be appropriate to ask a co-worker to move back a little and give me more space....I just stressed to much, I wanted to just as kindly as I could say 'he I have ptsd and would you mind maybe not standing right behind me while I finish this rack, I just get nervous with people behind me'. But I was afraid to say that so I just akwardly scooted the rack around so that she was not directly behind me and couldn't get there again because I put myself where there was a wall too close for anyone to get behind me....and I just worry that was probably even ruder than just maybe having admitted I have an issue and her positioning behind me was making me nervous. Like she is super nice she probably would have had no problem moving aside a little for a minute so now I am just stressing hoping I didn't hurt her feelings by just awkwardly moving away like I did. IDK I guess it's just hard to admit weakness in front of people cause I am worried about getting bullied. Its stupid though, that woman would not bully me for that...I doubt she even could bully anyone so idk why I was so afraid to just admit what my hang up was.

I have similar issues. If I knew my action was "socially acceptable", I'd have no problem. But when I haven't seen something, I am fairly clueless. I would like to know how to explain a need without offending or being weird. I don't have an answer for you as I would like to figure this out myself. I have a similar dilemma with a friend right now.

I just asked my NT partner and he said he'd move if he could or ask the person to move. No second thoughts or concerns. Complete NT confidence. I don't feel like to plays out that way with me. It's like my delivery (verbally, or with body language) is either too confident (seemingly intimidating, arrogant) or too insecure (neon sign for bullies).

I hope you can either follow up in a nice way with your co-worker or genuinely let it go in a nice way for you.

You’re pretty smart.

I bet you could get a better job than what you have now.....