You can't control how you're feeling about this or that. It's absolutely okay if you're not feeling your best. Try to be honest about what you feel.
Appointments are often stressful. Human interactions are often stressful for autistics. That's okay. You can at least try not to stress over getting stressed 
Things can be stressful to both you and your family - it's definitely never one or another. It's often connected - people living together often amplify each other's feelings.
Try to care for yourself the best you can 
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Let's not confuse being normal with being mentally healthy.
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