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29 Jul 2022, 1:37 pm

How many of the people that you dated have you met from one of the locales on the “worst place” list?

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I met everyone I’ve dated in one of those locations. I’ve only dated 3ish people, though, but they were all mistakes. I met two of them at cult gatherings and the third is just too embarrassing to say.


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29 Jul 2022, 1:43 pm

None.

It's not for "want of trying," though :wink:

I was pretty naive in my immediate post-high school years. I'm lucky something really nasty didn't happen to me.



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29 Jul 2022, 1:57 pm

In some of those locations, it’s pretty easy to find someone, but it’s probably not going to be worth the trade off.

For instance, in a cult that does not believe in sex before marriage or masturbation and strongly discourages people from dating outside of the group, everyone is super eager to find someone when they are 18 to their early 20’s, but it’s far from an ideal situation. Sexual desperation is not a great basis for a relationship.


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29 Jul 2022, 3:34 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
In some of those locations, it’s pretty easy to find someone, but it’s probably not going to be worth the trade off.

For instance, in a cult that does not believe in sex before marriage or masturbation and strongly discourages people from dating outside of the group, everyone is super eager to find someone when they are 18 to their early 20’s, but it’s far from an ideal situation. Sexual desperation is not a great basis for a relationship.


I'm curious though, what kind of cults are out there.



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29 Jul 2022, 3:43 pm

Mitchell M. wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
In some of those locations, it’s pretty easy to find someone, but it’s probably not going to be worth the trade off.

For instance, in a cult that does not believe in sex before marriage or masturbation and strongly discourages people from dating outside of the group, everyone is super eager to find someone when they are 18 to their early 20’s, but it’s far from an ideal situation. Sexual desperation is not a great basis for a relationship.


I'm curious though, what kind of cults are out there.


Lots!

What kind are you looking for? :wink:

There are a wide variety of Christian cults, New Age cults, and political cults just to name a few big categories. Some people refer to cults as high control groups because cults don't have to be religious; it's more about control.


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29 Jul 2022, 4:15 pm

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29 Jul 2022, 9:54 pm

None.

And none of your business ;).



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30 Jul 2022, 11:09 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
None.

And none of your business ;).


Blocked! :lol:


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30 Jul 2022, 12:40 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
None.

And none of your business ;).


Blocked! :lol:


Check my signature.



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30 Jul 2022, 12:42 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
None.

And none of your business ;).


Blocked! :lol:


Check my signature.


What makes you think I haven’t? :wink:


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30 Jul 2022, 12:49 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
None.

And none of your business ;).


Blocked! :lol:


Check my signature.


What makes you think I haven’t? :wink:


Great, then you can use MY limited "block" functionality to block me (it's limited because it doesn't access the database of course, it's purely in browser). :mrgreen:

Block the block master!



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30 Jul 2022, 12:52 pm

I was just joking. I’m not interested in blocking people.


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30 Jul 2022, 1:02 pm

How disappointing...



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30 Jul 2022, 1:10 pm

Those all seem like pretty good places to me. We need to let go of this snobbery. :lol:


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