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Dating this guy now for 7 months. My mom hates him because he tells me he knows nobody in my neighborhood and yet my mom says they are gossiping about him all the time. Asking questions like, "what's so and so doing around here and is 'this' sincere? Also, "Isn't he gay?" My mom is livid. We are fighting constantly. She thinks he's seeing other people and tells me I should too. He said, he has no intention of getting engaged this year or the next. He re-gifted me four gifts this past Christmas which infuriated my mom even more. The only new thing was a coat which was too small. I asked mom to return it. They told her it wasn't paid for but gave her a gift card anyway. Evidently, it was put aside (for his mother) by an employee. I love this guy but mom thinks its a huge mistake to stay and wants me to date others who are ready for marriage. I do want to get married.

If everyone around you is telling you he's a bad guy, don't marry him. If it's just your mom, then marry him.

(maybe not as simple as that but the best advice I can give based on some stories my mom told me of a relationship she had with a guy)

My mom is right 99 percent of the time. She's probably right this time too but I just hate it that she is.

He also said he's not ready for marriage but wants to date me exclusively. Last weekend, he showed up with his collar buttoned all the way up. My mom said he probably had suck mark's on his neck. I didn't ask to check his neck. I was embarrassed. He never lets me suck his neck.

Maybe he just wanted to look well-groomed.

Maybe he was hiding a pimple or a rash.

Please don't suck anyone's neck without asking first, you will put your guy in an embarassing situation in his workplace.

I don't want my gf to suck my neck either, I don't do so to her too.

My ex did this once to me, without asking, she tought it was "cute" to leave a mark but it caused me grief for weeks, lot of weird looks and teasing and stupid questions because of it, and it was summer so I couldn't use collar (I eventaully had to use a patch to hide it, I wasn't aware that people can easily identify it as a kiss mark). At least she could leave the mark somewhere that can be easily hidden.