What the heck is going on? Does she like me still?

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So this year I became really good friends with a girl that I was in a play with. (we're high school sophomores), and I asked her out last Saturday and she said she would love to she just has to ask her parents.

On Tuesday her parents said no, and I figured they were probably uncomfortable about the idea of us being alone together in a movie theater, so I tried to see if she wanted to try to organize a group date or something. She said we should just forget about it, I keep trying to stay in contact with her over text, but something about her responses makes her seem annoyed with me. I thought she liked me back so why would she give up so easily? It's like she doesn't even wanna be friends with me. I haven't even talked to her in person since before I asked her out because we don't have any classes together and we were just in the play together so I can't figure it out. Should I keep trying to stay friends with her and wait it out to see if someday her parents will be more open? What if she just wants nothing to do with me anymore? And if so, why???

Are you still in touch online?

Maybe offer to meet the girl’s parents, if that’s desired. Parents like to see what a potential boyfriend/girlfriend is like.

If you're both Sophomores does that mean she's around 15 years old?
That's awfully young to be asked on a date.
Maybe she got cold feet.
Maybe her parents don't want her to date.
Maybe they're very strict and she got in trouble or fought with them.
Maybe she didn't even ask them because she was scared of a fight (or wasn't interested).
Even if she's allowed to go on a date, maybe she doesn't feel that way for you.
It's always hard for people to tell someone else they aren't interested.
That doesn't mean she doesn't like you as a friend.

Looks to me like you scared her, or perhaps she just wasn't interested in you in the first place. Time to back off.

I would suggest writing her a brief apology, e.g. "I'm sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable by asking for a date. I will stop asking for anything of the kind. I hope we can still be friends."

THEN leave her alone, except to say hi when you happen to run into her at school or wherever. Or, if she reaches out to you, feel free to respond. But don't pursue her at all if she doesn't respond, and don't ask for another date even if she does respond.

It's remotely possible that she might be open to a date with you in a few years (at the earliest), but don't hold your breath. Start paying more attention to other girls instead.

I suggest ghosting her completely, or risk trouble from her parents . . . or the courts.

You are sixteen and trying to date teenage girls. This board is probably not the best place to look for advice.

Ppl need to understand when it is time to move on.

Giver her space.
If she approaches you, then consider your MUTUAL options.

I hope you can still be friends with her, if she wants that.