Single for over 10 years...and ok for the most part

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So I've been single for over 10+ years and so far it has had plenty of bumps in the road, but overall it's better than constantly being on edge thinking that my SO will think of me as less than because of my diagnosis and want to leave me. Do I still desire companionship? Absolutely! I think a lot of people do want companionship at the end of the day. However I'm gonna take my time with it...play the long game as it were, and when I do have those moments were I feel desperate for companionship, I'll just remember that at least I don't have to deal with an asinine amount of drama.

But that's just me at least. Anyone else in a similar boat where you've been single for a long time? If so how have you coped with the idea of long time single-ness. Would love to know.

I was single and did not go on even one date for 25 years. Most of that time I was pretty content just being with myself. Now I've been in a relationship for the past 10, and married for the last eight.

If you want it, don't give up hope. If it never happens, my 25 years say that can be OK too.

I used to think i had missed out but came to realise all things happen for a reason. I like being alone. I crave it.

Id rather be single than have another unwritten, conditional love contract.

Having analysed my last relationship it was like a long, slow, gnawing pain in the neck with a fake wannabe martyr. A shameless, conspicuous deceiver whom felt justified in her misbehaviour, shaming and guilting because of her righteous resentments.

I do like to be around people though but not interact with them. So like sitting in a coffee shop on my own table or window shopping in a mall. It has a calming effect if things get too isolated at home. I also watch Twitch. That's all the companionship i need! Its actually comforting.